oh yeah, you definitely don’t want him slapping food out of your hand and stuff like that! but that’s what i mean – you need to tell him that’s what you *don’t* want, also that he should be considerate about leaving food around, don’t buy huge cakes etc. there was one woman on here a while back who told her husband about her binge eating, and his reaction was to put locks on all the cupboards, and the fridge!!!
but tell him there may be times that you are going to overeat, or that you might do it in front of him, or that on some occasions you might refuse dinner because you binged earlier etc. all that “secret” stuff that you keep from him will be out in the open now.
yes – don’t diet!! not now. you need to sort out the binging before you can even think about dieting, and even then you should be very wary of dieting. i don’t think you should count calories either. what i found with calorie counting was that as soon as i approached my upper limit for the day, i started to think that i wasn’t allowed to eat more irrespective of how hungry i was which opened the door for restriction and subsequent binging. your metabolism fluctuate and there are days where you NEED to eat more, just as there are days where you can get away with eating less.
i do believe that once you stop binging your weight will drop down naturally. it did for me and many others here who have stopped binging. so persevere and don’t diet! xox
