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March 14, 2012 at 10:47 am #4738
The idea of controlled moderation is a great one. Just eat your trigger foods only when you’re out and don’t have them around the house. However, when you live with roommates or family who buy those foods, you still end up craving them and in my case I have even gone to the point of thinking I could take just a bite without them noticing, yet ended up eating the entire jar feeling helpless. What would you suggest?March 14, 2012 at 1:27 pm #91237
Sethb..that is a tough one. I have to co exist with a gal who is always bringing home indulgences. I would initial be able to sustain but eventualy give in and devour everything. Then came the guilt and hostility for her buying them. I cannot control how she wants to live and eat…quite beating my head against the wall! I am now 10 days binge free and the one big change I’ve made is to allow me anything I want for my meals. They have to be appealing and really satisfying. So far it is working and I’m continuing one day at a time, one meal at a time. So because I’m not deny me anything, her cookies and candies don’t really appeal to me.
I wish you sane days…come back often read and postMarch 14, 2012 at 2:09 pm #91238
I feel that it is probably best to live in a household with access to such treats and temptations. My binge eating started when I returned home after living away at University – at University I always ate well and never bought treats to lower the cost of my food and living. Coming home is when the bingeing started – in a house full of treats! However, I feel powerful when I manage to consciously resist them, even though I know that they are in the house. I feel that if nothing that is considered a treat or temptation is in the house, then I’m not actually exercising any will power over my binge….and I am more likely to fall temptation to foods when they are within my reach! So overcoming a binge when there is food in the house is good, as I know that I can be strong in the face of food. You shouldn’t try and hide from the food, but stand up to it, and beat it face to face. I know it’s hard, but in the long run it will be worth it!March 14, 2012 at 2:23 pm #91239
what is it about these foods that makes you crave them? do you deny them usually? are they ‘forbidden’ in some way? make a point of eating them every single day until you know in your heart of hearts that you can have these things whenever you want. then they will lose their allure and you will be ok to have them around you all the time. if the problem was something to do with those particular ‘trigger’ foods, wouldn’t *everyone* binge on them? no, the issue is that YOU have made up some or other rule about them that only applies to you. break that rule, get rid of it. you don’t need it.March 14, 2012 at 10:31 pm #91240
just this past year i took in an elderly family member to live with me. That person is frail, doesn’t eat much (compared to me… ha ha..) and basically lives on high cal sweet food (cookies, ice cream,desserts, bread and jam…..which I now have to shop for). At first I was really worried. But frankly none of the sweets appeal to me anymore and I have never touched them. my only weakness (if you can call it that) is the whole wheat bread… seriously. I know that I have solved many of my problems in all the wrong ways (according to ‘Divine’) by telling myself (years ago) that I could binge but only on regular healthy food (i.e. no dessert food). But over time the pathways in my brain associated w/ the binge/splurge urge now point to things like grains, rice, veg, & marg, chinese take-out (veg & rice) etc etc. and not candy, cookie, cake, icecream. my tastes (in ‘binge’ food) have matured… I guess. Sure, when I walk past this cake bakery after my nightly runs, my ‘animal’ brain does this little dance cuz it remembers that time (many years back) when I bought a big frosted layer cake and ate whole thing…. the animal brain loves to remember these things :wink: but my other thought paths just wipe it out. I know i’m all wrong according to the BED experts here but its the way i am.March 15, 2012 at 12:52 am #91241
If you have solved your problems by telling yourself you could binge on healthy foods YEARS AGO, and you are still binging today, YEARS LATER…are you any closer to recovery? Actual recovery is putting an end to binge eating, period.
Everyone is free to handle their BED as they see fit.
Most people I’ve spoken to here are trying to stop, not modify their binging. That is why I recommended not restricting anything. If they wanted to justify, modify, and drag it out for years to come, they would not have requested my advice. They are ready to let it go.
I used to modify, justify, excuse all kinds, and get quite defensive. The reality at that point was, at that time, I was not ready to let BED go yet.
Like I said everyone is entitled to handle their journey as they see fit for them, but it will benefit them to be honest with themselves. You feel I said what you’re doing is wrong. If you feel it is right for you, stay the course. I advise those who ask my help on what worked for me, and what worked quickly, so their suffering and loss of control doesn’t have to go on longer than it already is.
I felt I needed to address this post, since you referred to me in your post. I want to be clear about what I said and why.March 15, 2012 at 9:05 am #91242
sciencefreak, if you are happy with the way you eat now, then you are not wrong. if you have found a way that works for you that is different to how others have tackled this, you are not wrong either! no-one on here is an expert by any stretch, we are all muddling through this together. i have found a way that worked for me, so i do as much as i can to share this with others, in case it helps them. you have found something that works for you – brilliant! maybe someone else will read what you wrote and say “hey, i don’t know about this brain over binge malarky, but i can work with sciencefreak’s ideas”. you know? there’s no right or wrong here.
…apart from dieting: that’s wrong. (haha – i’m sort of but not really joking about that! )March 15, 2012 at 5:44 pm #91243
hi tobe… i think ‘brain over binge’ is right on; its not malarky at all rather it is totally in keeping with much of what i already knew about how we are ‘wired’ to want food. the knowledge of our bodies and how we are put together based on the environment in which we evolved can be quite liberating. my reference to binge foods above might lead someone to believe that i’m regularly ‘binging’ (i still get confused by that word) on bread and noodles etc. i haven’t done what I described to you maybe in almost a year and that was not even what i might have liked it to be. and the last time that i may have decided to eat up all the bread heels (which my elderly house mate doesn’t eat) which i keep in the freezer, in one clip, is months ago, maybe last year. i was just responding to folks discussion of whether certain food in the house are triggering or not. more later…. xoxoxox scifreakMarch 16, 2012 at 8:38 am #91244
heyyyyy sciencefreak! thanks for explaining! i thought you said in another journal that these days you spend a while cooking a nice big filling meal and sit down to eat that, like a big soup with lots of veg or something healthy. my apologies – it’s hard to keep track of these things! either way, your method of binging on healthier foods might be a good first step for someone to take, if they still want to binge but don’t want to cause as much damage. we can all learn from a success story!
just out of interest, your way wouldn’t have worked for me at all. my binges were because i had been strict with my diet for too long and the LAST thing i wanted was something healthy. i have been known to throw vegetables away so i could pretend i had nothing to eat, and be forced to go and buy donuts. thank god that’s all over!! xoxoxMarch 16, 2012 at 8:57 pm #91245
another piece of my puzzle is that i had a real purging problem years back, not vomiting but addiction to use of enemas and then enemas and laxatives. so my first order of business had to be ridding myself of that dependence as i feared i would never be able to eat and normally eliminate. so diet (aka choice of food) was really important. I needed the bulk of veges and grains etc to convince me that i could do that. i’ll never forget the day when i realized that ‘wow’ maybe I can eat every day and also eliminate… and maintain my weight, but eating tons of fruit and veges (which i love anyway) was the key. the purging mindset is that uv poisoned yourself w/ bad food and must now wash and cleanse and there’s a bit of a rush in that. eating healthy food made it so i didn’t feel ‘poisoned’(its a mental thing i know). i also remember the day, I was packing to move to another state; i picked up that enema contraption (it needed to be replaced… i know this is so gross for you to be reading..) and i thought i’m not gonna replace this… i chucked it in the trash and that was that… it felt so freeing. so that’s why i’m focused on healthy food. since then i’ve improved in reducing the ‘binges’ (over consumption of bread, veges and grains).
not everyone here has exactly the same issues. i came to binging just like alot of folks.. i.e dieting down to a very low weight, but back-end purging soon became part of that equation. note: “brain over binge’ had not been published then also alot of the current research proving the addictive drug-like qualities of high fat sweet foods had also not been done. the pieces of the puzzle are coming together now, but i needed to solve my problems then.
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