please help?

[RehabParticipant]

Hi, well, i’ve only started eating healthy about 3 weeks ago. It wasn’t really ‘dieting’, my main goal was just to get my eating habits under control. and for almost 3 weeks i haven’t binged at all (huge deal for me) and also lost about 2 kilos. today, however, i’m in the worst binge mood ever and i don’t know how to stop myself, i’m constantly thinking about food, not even craving anything in particular, just can’t stop. drinking water, tea or anything like that is not helping and i’m going crazy thinking i’ll just die if i gained the weight back or if i wake up tomorrow still feeling like this, and i’ll just never stop eating! what do u think would help? does anyone else feel this way? what works for you when it comes to fighting these urges? i really, really need help. thanks

[SarahParticipant]

Hey Girl, im sure other people feel the same way as you! Maybe your are craving food becuase you have not been eating enough? Maybe your weight is at a too low level and its making you hungry all the time? Hope you feel better tomorrow. xx Sarah

[JonnyShellyParticipant]

With the right mindset and motivation anyone can shed a couple pounds with some patience and perseverance. A little bit of exercise and nutritional knowledge goes a long way.

Anybody struggling with their weight should give this blog a look. He has an inspirational story of how he changed his life for the better, and ended up meeting the love of his life. I always read his first post whenever I am a bit frustrated with my dieting, Josh is a lucky man.

http://www.extremeweightlosshelpnow.com/

[tobebingefreeModerator]

what helped me the most was to understand why i got the urges and how to say no to them. i am recommending this book to everyone because it has helped me a lot: brain over binge by kathryn hensen. the trick is understanding that the binge urges have been formed by habit, and distancing yourself from them. hope it helps you xox

[RehabParticipant]

Thanks a lot everyone. this is really helpful‏.‏ i’ve read amazing things about that book and can not wait to start reading it. thank you! right now i have a bmi of 38, definitely not too low, lol. and i try to include everything in my diet to make cravings less. dunno, its probably stress, emotional eating just kills me. but, you know, its okay. one day isn’t gonna ruin the plan. i’m feeling much better now, just fighting cravings all day.

stay strong <3

[SarahParticipant]

Hey Rehab. I hope you have a good day girl. Lots of Love Sarah xx

[tobebingefreeModerator]

hey hey rehab! yes definitely check out the book. i was just like you in that i tried a million different ways to stop the cravings – drinking water, distracting myself, going for walks, addressing my stress/anger, trying all sorts of supplements…. but none of them worked in the long run because my body wanted to EAT and nothing else would do! i realised that i was attributing my cravings to emotional things but this was not the case at all – my body wanted food so would make up any old excuse to get me to eat – you’re tired, you’re sad, you’re stressed.. that’s why this feels like such a big knot to unravel at times! aaaanyway the book explains it all much better than i can you are right to take it one day at a time, i promise it gets easier! it’s like quitting smoking – the cravings will escalate for a little while after you cut off the supply, but then they will drop away after that. hope you are staying strong today xox

[RehabParticipant]

Hey Sarah thanks, i’m having a good day today, hope you are too <3

Hey tobebingefree that is true, i’m trying to know more about that too, why i need to binge and all that. its crazy, sometimes even for no reason at all. Today is great, no cravings or anything and ,fortunately, no weight gain. totally sticking to the plan and it feels amazing. hope you two are doing great, I’d love to hear about your progress. stay strong <3

[SarahParticipant]

Hey Rehab. If you are not gaining weight from your binging, that means that you must be restricting your food intake at other times. Maybe this is one of the reasons why you binge, because you are genuinely hungry? Hope you have a good day today girl. xx Sarah

[RehabParticipant]

I’m not sure. the binge was for one day, but yeah, that may be why i’m craving food a little too strongly now. my bmr is around 1700 cals and some days i have between 1200 – 1400 , is that too low? i also exercise, not everyday, just burning 300-400 cals when i do. well, this really wasn’t meant to be about counting calories, lol. I’ll need to balance it somehow.‏ ‎what do you think?‏ thanks lovely <3

[tobebingefreeModerator]

morning yeah the binge urges do become habitual over time, so even after you stop dieting and address all the things that made you start binging in the first place, you may STILL continue to binge because of all the neural pathways and whatnot formed in your brain over time. so really, you “just” need to learn how to say no to the urges, and forget about the rest. of course, undereating and being hungry will make the urges more frequent and more intense, but you can help yourself there by eating at maintenance. from what you have just said about your calories (and yes, it shouldn’t be about calories!! a lesson i finding very difficult to learn!), you are not eating enough to maintain, and then you are exercising on top of that! so eat more and hopefully the cravings/hungriness will go away

oh and thanks for your interest in our progress you can read about it in our journals – this journal is for you! (or rather, the new journal you have started is for you! ) xoxox

[SarahParticipant]

Well if your bmr is 1700 and you burn 300-400 cals a day, then this makes your daily cal total 2000-2100 with exercise added on + probably another 10-20% for your daily activities. So 2300-2500cals per day would be a rate at which you would maintain your weight. Yes 1200-1300 is MUCH to low and will def. be a BIG contributor to why you are binging. If you are overweight, then aiming for about 2000 cals would be a better idea, you will lose the weight more slowly, but hey it’s not as though you are going to lose anything if you are binging every few days is it? Hope this helps xx

[SarahParticipant]

Also I agree with Tobebingefree’s comment above about binging becoming a habit even when you are eating enough. But it will be possible to break if you are eating at maintainance or much closer to it than you are, where as if you are eating only half of what you need to est each day it will be much harder. Also if you are not overweight and still trying to lose weight then your body may be resistent to this aswell. xx

[MarshaParticipant]

self awareness and self esteem needs to be boosted to pass this situation.

[RehabParticipant]

I totally agree with you ladies, thanks for your help actually, i only burn that 300-400 calories when i do exercise (no more than 3 days a week i’m not very active) normally, i’d eat at my bmr but the days i don’t exercise it feels better to just eat less. i’m not sure what i need to do here but what i want is to have a better relationship with food, or it’ll never end, i know. but sometimes its just hard. this time of the year is always hard for me. winter is not my season, depression now is worse than ever.

tobebingefree, i was so looking forward to reading the book but i couldn’t get it ( i live in egypt, books about ED’s aren’t easy to find) i don’t think i can read it online. is there anyway you can send it to me via email or something? its okay if you can’t though, you’ve been great help already thanks <3

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