I have been binging for a year or so now. I have lost all control over my eating. Every single day I say I'll start eating healthy tomorrow but it NEVER happens. My body physically aches all the time and I feel sick. I have shut out all my friends. I don't want anyone to see me. I feel like they will only look at my body and think I am fat. I want help so badly but I am so ashamed of myself. I tried telling my mom but she just didn't understand at all how bad this really is. She just said, oh don't worry about gaining any weight, just start eating healthier. How can I NOT worry and that is the problem I CANT STOP eating junk food no matter what?! I eat ALL the time. I haven't had my period in a year. I know my body is breaking down but I still cannot help myself. When im not eating im thinking of eating. I am glad to have found a site where I can talk about this and get it out of my system. I have never talked about it before.
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kaelynmarie
MemberPosted 1 month ago # -
LMVector
MemberFirst of all welcome... I've not been here for long myself but I can see there's a supportive group of people all ready to listen and offer what they can.
I think first of all you need to let everything out... tell us how you feel and why. What are you eating? How do you feel when you eat it? What about after? Let yourself flow.
After you do this you need to forgive yourself for everything and not feel guilty. Set yourself a goal of three healthy square meals a day, and make sure you eat properly then. It's a lot harder to binge when you're full of vegetables and protein. And if you fall, don't think I'll start again tomorrow. The instant you feel you fell of the wagon get back on straight away.
Respect yourself, and let yourself be.
Mel.
Posted 1 month ago # -
question to mel... how should i think when i fall.? if i start binging, i always think that i'll start over again tomorrow but i keep binging for several days..
Posted 1 month ago # -
question to mel... how should i think when i fall.? if i start binging, i always think that i'll start over again tomorrow but i keep binging for several days..
Posted 1 month ago # -
jacquirsw1
MemberIf you fail, so what. At the end of the day it is about changing the thinking. Rather than thinking that you have to be perfect and always eat very healthy meals with no fat and little calories, be realistic, no matter how good you are you are always going to have times when you do not eat as well as you want to, and do you know what THATS OK!!!! it is alright to have things that aren't healthy. There is no point feeling guilty, as all that does is make you feel bad and want to cover that feeling up with food.
The most effective forms of therapy for binge eating disorder all say that if you have a binge, recognise it for what it was and then leave it behind, this is something that I personally have found has had one of the biggest impact in my ability to control this, and yes even now I still ahve bad days, but what seems to change is that they will be bad days or even single bad binges, whereas like you before they could have been binge weeks or longer.
eg
If I have a binge at 10am in the past I would have starved after it because of guilt and then ended up binging later.
Now if I have a binge at 10am I would have a normal lunch still at 1pm and then carry on and have an afternoon snack and a normal dinner. it seems stupid but it helps and it makes it very hard to keep binging for longer periods of time.Jacqui
Posted 1 month ago # -
sometimes i eat normal meals and snacks even when i have a binge but i end up binging anyway. and what i think is 'im gonna binge later anyway, why dont i just do it now?' and then binge eating series begins. is this just me?
Posted 1 month ago # -
jacquirsw1
MemberNope definitely not just you.
I have been known to deliberately go to the shops to buy stuff to binge on because I know I am going to.
I think for me one of the things is learning to stop thinking that 'I binge'. as that is a self fullfilling prophesy. this doesn't mean that I am not aware of the fact that I do binge, but it is not who I am, it is something I do. (I don't know if that makes any sense at all) cos to me if it is something I do it can be changed but if it is who I am then that can't be.
Jacqui
Posted 1 month ago # -
LMVector
MemberI think when one falls everything becomes a bit of a blurr, so it's really hard to start a new train of thought (Ive been known to hit the supermarket for a binge too), but I've had an idea.
When you fall, take a shower. Why?
1. You cant eat in the shower.
2. Youll give yourself a moment of clarity. Maybe reason will step in and tell you its okay to stop.
3. You will feel cleaner morally. Studies show that physical cleanliness helps people feel less guilty morally.
What you need to try to tell yourself and think when you fall is "Its okay to stop now. I dont need to binge. I will feel so much better when I go to sleep tonight if I dont do this"
I hope this helps
Posted 1 month ago #
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