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July 19, 2011 at 2:24 pm #3806
Hi, I have read lots of blogs on here and thought I’d just start my own! I’m so glad to discover there are so many people on here who will understand how I feel and what I am going through. I do feel so alone, surrounded by skinny family and friends and people losing weight so easily – I want it to be my turn! I am 29 (30 next April) and I simply can not start my 30′s living how I have been for pretty much all of my 20′s.
I go to bed every night promising myself that tomorrow I will eating healthily and every day I start off with the best of intentions. Occasionally I do make it right through the day eating heathily, but more often than not I will end up bingeing. I feel totally out of control and this is what makes me so sad. Why can I not just take control????? It is only in the last few weeks that I have admitted to myself that I do actually have an eating disorder. I haven’t talked to anyone about it, although I know my husband knows I don’t have a healthy relationship with food and he does know I eat in secret but he has know idea of the extent of it or that I pretty much think about food every second of every day. I would love to talk to him about it more but I am just too embarrassed and ashamed.
I would really appreciate any advice on how to kick this binge eating once and for all!
Thanks!! xxxJuly 19, 2011 at 3:48 pm #84051
I can really relate to you. Talking to your man about this is a good idea. You don’t have to go into too much detail, but just let him know you’re struggling and need some help. I told my husband (who back then was my boyfriend) and it was one of the best things I did. Although he had no idea how to help me or what to say, it felt great to be honest with him about it, and he encouraged me to see a doctor. I know how hard it is. I was embarrassed and ashamed and disgusted in myself, I thought he would never want to be with a food obsessed ogre! But it turned out he never thought those things at all!
MFJuly 20, 2011 at 2:39 pm #84052
Thanks Morning fog, I will try to build up the courage to speak to my husband. And it’s a good point that I don’t have to go into much detail. I know he is not exactly going to be surprised, and I do need him to know how hard I am finding this.
I have been thinking about how I feel addicted to bingeing, I really don’t feel in control of it and certainly don’t know how to stop even though I desperately want to. I am thinking the only way I am going to be able to stop is by completely eliminating the foods I binge on from my life (just as an alcoholic, drug or gambling addict would do). So basically, that means I have to say goodbye to chocolate, biscuits, cakes, sweets and ice cream. I really don’t think I would ever binge on other foods, it is only these ones that I just can’t seem to get enough of. I am not bothered in ths slightest at the thought of never eating these foods again because even though I eat a ridiculous amount of them, I don’t enjoy eating them and I really do hate what they are doing to me – physically and psychologically. What bothers me is what to do when I’m stressed/bored/tired/frustrated/angry and crave these foods?July 20, 2011 at 9:08 pm #84053
Oh how I understand your frustration! I have no clue what “the answer” is, I guess whatever works for you – which figuring out might be a bit of trial and error. When I read your last post, it actually reminded me of a lady I used to work with who is a recovered bulimic. She had to eliminate all junk food in order to recover, and to this day she hasn’t eaten chocolate for 7 years or something. But I also know of people, like the lovely Lauren, who eat all things in moderation and have successfully recovered.
I wish there were an easy answer that was universal for all of us!
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