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minipro
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Hey everyone. I'm new to this forum. I guess I will tell you a little bit about myself. Last year around this time, I lost some weight due to stress in a relationship. Shortly after that, I gained about 13 pounds. From about Jan to May of this year, I was on a very strict diet and exercised every day for at least an hour and a half. I was able to lose the 13 pounds. However, since then, I have found myself binging at least 5 days a week, where it used to be only once or twice a week. I still exercise almost daily. But I know that at one point it will catch up with me. It seems that I can do really well during the day (when I am at school), but late at night is when my binge occurs. I moved to somewhere new, so I do not really have support so I am trying to deal with it on my own, but I seem to be unsuccessful. All I seem to think about is food. Any advice? Thanks.

Posted 1 year ago #
Andrew Bolis
Forum Administrator

Can you tell us what your eating is like in the day time? Many people who binge at night often are very restrictive during the day, they either deprive themselves from certain foods or try to eat very little calories, or basically diet during the day, and crash at night.

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Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
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Yes, you got it on the dot. I eat alot of low calorie foods during the day, carrots, apples, low cal soup. Then later on at night I seem to eat everything in sight.

Posted 1 year ago #
Andrew Bolis
Forum Administrator

That is the problem right there, you deprive yourself in the day time, so when night time comes you can't help but eat all the foods you have been avoiding.

This is precisely why diets don't work. You need to gradually start incorporating some of your favorite junk foods in your meals in small amounts, otherwise you'll always binge on them out of deprivation.

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Posted 1 year ago #
Anonymous

I agree with you completely. I just think that I will not be able to control later on anyways, therefore, I try and "save up" my calories during the day so I can use them at night

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

Hi anonymous......i started of doing the exact same thing as you....late at night is quiet and a time where you reflect and have time to think about your emotions. This may be something you avoid so comfort and hunger combined= binge eating.Saving up calories will not work...please try and allow yourself to eat...

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

have you overcome your binge eating? alot of time i eat because I am up late doing school work. it's easy to stay awake when you are eating.

Posted 1 year ago #
Andrew Bolis
Forum Administrator

binger,

you made a great point, I agree.

I have overcome my binge eating and one of the keys was to eat more balanced meals. Whenever I starved myself or deprived myself during a meal I would often binge eating later on that day. A combination of healthy foods and some junk food makes a good balanced meal. Once you start having balanced meals the temptation to binge eat will go away slowly on it's own, b/c you'll already be eating some of your favorite foods and wont feel deprived or start craving them.

Andrew

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Posted 1 year ago #
binger
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Minipro i havent conquererd my binge eating.they are not as frequent but do occur..i am allowing myself the odd treat like Andrew said you have incorpirate junk food into your daily diet...i have been there...im guessing you feel constantly anxious about food.You are trying to avoid it and when you do eat it you want to be incontrol...im guessing you are not sure if you are eating too little or to much.
Thanks Andrew i saw you on you tube and you give me hope...Minipro im here for you...

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

I really appreciate all of the advice! I will try your suggestion. I have read that binge eaters should just try and get their eating undercontrol and not worry about losing weight. However, I am very stuck on losing more weight. I don't consider myself too much overweight (according to my BMI, I am actually in the normal range- 5'3" 135 pounds) but I don't feel like I am a "normal" weight. Yesterday I did well..no binge. I have done well today as well.

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

minipro,you know you are a healthy weight but feel you want to be smaller.Can i ask u ...if you lost a stone in weight would that be enough?2 stone? c my point is that im still very obese even though ive lost 3 st so far (42lbs)i know that if i got down to a size 10 clothing i still would not be completly happy....my point is that it may feel like it but its not about your weight....do you kind of understand?Its about how you feel confidence wise,the way people treat you...etc

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

Hi binger. I am unfamiliar with what you mean by "stones." Since dieting, I have wanted to get to the weight that I was about a year and a half ago (125 pounds). I was happy then. Although I never had thoughts about food or what I ate, the way I looked...I am not sure if that would change if I reached that weight again. No one treats me any different now then when I was 10 pounds lighter. However, I am not confident with the way that I look. I want to lose the weight for myself.

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

Hey minipro,sorry in london we say our weight in pounds alot.My point is that do you really really feel like this is about your weight? i just feel that maybe no amount of weight loss will ever be enough if you dont challenge your inner self.....

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

i mean we say our weight in stones alot not pounds....1st = 14lbs 2 st =21lbs etc...

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

i guess i am unsure as to what this is about. its hard because i never used to think like this...thanks for all of your help i appreciate it

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

minipro i never used to think the way i do...i think there have always been signs from an early age with me...like i used to eat seceretly in my cuboard eating sweets etc.id use fod as a comfort...ive never been a very confident person and always somehow felt different....

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

i can understand seeing early signs, however, i never had any. this just started happening this year and i don't want it to continue forever.

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

What has been going on in your life which has created this emotional eating? u dont have to tell me/us if its to personal but think about it,has there been a death in the family,something which happened to u?Im just trying to get you to think about all the changes in your life...

Posted 1 year ago #
Anonymous

i appreciate your concern. Last year, my boyfriend and I of four years broke up, however, it caused me to lose weight since I was not eating. Then I started going out more with friends, which caused me to gain weight. From Jan through May I was on a strict diet and exercise plan. I lost the weight, but I know that I felt deprived, which I am assuming started the binging. So I have been struggling with it for a few months. Recently, I moved to a new state and started graduate school. I cannot really say that is the cause for it since I have been doing this all along, well for the past few months.

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

anonymous,sometimes its just the anxiety which is a trigger.Are you or were you anxious about moving,meeting new people,being away from family and trusted old friends?Feeling deprived is the key.....do you still have this strict diet and exersise regime and what happens when you decide to eat a chocolate bar,candy bar...

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

anonymous,sometimes its just the anxiety which is a trigger.Are you or were you anxious about moving,meeting new people,being away from family and trusted old friends?Feeling deprived is the key.....do you still have this strict diet and exersise regime and what happens when you decide to eat a chocolate bar,candy bar...

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

when i eat something "bad" I usually get very depressed about it and become disgusted with myself. However, I have done better within the last week. I bought mini chocolate bars and only have about 3 within a day. I feel guilty but not to the extent i did before. During the day I have a strict diet, but sometimes at night I lose control (I have done slightly better, since I barely have any food in my house). I exercise about 3 -4 times a week, which is nothing compared to what I used to do

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

Minipro,what does your diet consist of?And at what point is your cut of time to not eat in the evening.They are good steps u r taking.....it may not fel like it but this disorder is one day at a time....

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

For breakfast, I usually have oatmeal and a piece of fruit. Then for lunch a low cal soup and yogurt, then some carrots for a snack, then for dinner, a veggie burger and salad, or a sweet potato. Then around 7 or 8 I like to eat like 3 bowls of cereal and/or a few tablespoons of peanut butter (those are my two downfalls).

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

minipro...please dont be offended but i dont see a problem...you appear to eat healthy but if my therapist was here he would say maybe you could actually eat more.
For example;
Say i wake up at 9am-cereal like special k and skimmed milk
1130am- a yogurt or peice of fruit
1.30pm- chicken sandwich with mayo,salad and a cup of tea
3.30-4pm- pacet of crisps or couple of crackers with houmous or eaven a pice of toast
5.30-630pm- baked potato with tuna sweetcorn or pasta with turkey or spagetti bolgnaise etc

with a little veg. Sometimes i wake up later so i dont end up snacking as much but i make sure i dont use that as my excuse to restrict so brekki,lunch and dinner ill have slightly bigger portion sizes....but if at say 7or 8 pm im hungry i will have a snack...i eat a litle more when i go to the gym as u burn more calories etc....maybe qwith lunch you could allow yourself to eat some bread with your soup and more snacks...just a suggestion..

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

Well I have not binged in two days...I mean, I havent eaten too healthy, but I have not overdone it. Today I had...

cheerios
oatmeal and an apple
a 100 cal pack of cookies
2/3 cup chocolate chip pieces
a thai meal
an eng muff with laughing cow cheese
a handful of kashi cereal

Kind of seems much to me, but so were past binges

Posted 1 year ago #
Anonymous

I always thought laughing cow was the best name you can ever come up with for a cheese

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

so far so good...I have not binged in about 5 days. I have been trying to eat more calories during the day so I do not feel deprived by night

Posted 1 year ago #
ComA
Member

Congratulations, Minipro! Happy for You. You are my inspiration now, I slipped down lately :/. But I don't give up. Keep going with You. Cheers.

Posted 1 year ago #
Andrew Bolis
Forum Administrator

minipro,

That's very encouraging and thanks for sharing and motivating us all

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Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

I am really proud of myself...I feel so much better when I do not binge (another successful night). I have been telling myself to take one day at a time with this. I have felt more confident in myself since I have held off on binges, probably because I don't feel so stuffed to where I can't move. Everyone has been a great help thus far..thanks

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

well tonight was not as successful as the past couple of days...but definately better than it has been in the past...today i had..

breakfast-egg beater omlette and a yogurt
lunch-oatmeal and an apple
dinner-veg burger in a pita, 1/2 cup choc chip morsels
other snacks-4 tbsp or so of peanut butter, 1/4 box of mini wheats cereal, bagel with a slice of cheese

hopefully I wont fall off the wagon again

Posted 1 year ago #
Anonymous

i kind of like how you journal what you eat on the forum...its a good way to keep up accountability. excellent post about "all or nothing" mentality, andrew...i could really relate.

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

well done minipro

Posted 1 year ago #
Anonymous

ok, another not so good day...

oatmeal bar and apple
low cal soup and apple
banana and carrots
sandwich and rice from applebees
oatmeal bar
several tablespoons of peanut butter (definately my weakness)

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

wow its amazing how one persons binge is considered bad compared to another.Ican eat a whole packet of 16 oreo biscuits,a chinese takeaway......more chocolate and more food again..now that is a binge to me..it was worse before...

Posted 1 year ago #
Anonymous

I know I am not the worse case, but to me its bad because I was never like this. The past two days I was good..today however, not too good.

oatmeal, eng muff and slice of fat free cheese
packet of carrot sticks
2 slices of pizza
vegetarian chili, grilled veggies, oatmeal bar, bagel, and a few handfuls of cereal

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

Ireally respect what u are saying i was by no means trying to say that when u or anyone else binges it does not count....as if you feel like it is a binge then thats how you feel...but also take into consideration that there is a big difference when we binge and when we over eat...please give yourself credit...its good you like veg..i struggle to eat it every day and when i binge eat.....there are absolutly no vegetables anywhere to be seen!I really really feel like you are being hard on yourself.....if anything i bet the above food you have consumed is less calories than you are allowing yourself to eat...what i mean is that u may possibly be under eating...

Posted 1 year ago #
Andrew Bolis
Forum Administrator

binger,

Great point !!!

I know for me I've noticed that if I overeat a little and don't think much of it, then it's no big deal.

However when I overeat a little and let all the feelings of guilt, and disappointment take over then often I start feeling down. I start thinking what's the point? I've tried so many times and failed.

This is a HORRIBLE state of mind because I then do one of two things. Turn the small overeating episode into a full binge eating episode. Or I think to myself that I gotta make up for it, either by starving myself, overexercising, or some other form of purging.

This is why you must go easy on yourself. Don't let a small slip get the best of you. Forgive yourself. And expect to slip up every now and then, hey it's only natural. You are just human not some kind of perfect robot.

Anyways It sounds like everyone has been making great progress which is awesome

Keep it up !!!!!

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Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

Hey all. So I counted calories for months in the beginning of the year. However, I know that I was undereating. Does anyone know how to calculate how many calories you should be eating? What about when you exercise as well as watching what you eat? Because I know you have to keep your BMR up, which was my problem before...it was slowing down my weight loss because I wasn't eating enough. I am trying to tackle this binging problem and lose weight simultaneously (probably not ideal). But I am away from my family for school and will be visiting in less than two months. I want to prove that I can be healthy when being alone and to myself as well. When I am doing well, I feel so great. Today has been great:

oatmeal and a bagel with low cal jelly
low cal soup and an apple
ONE chocolate chip cookie (however, there were people around so it helped me control myself)
a banana and sugar free pudding
a yogurt

For dinner, I will probably make pasta with fresh tomatoes and broccoli

I think the key for me is to eat a big dinner because it will prevent me from binging later on the in the night.

Also, I am really bad with drinking water, so I am trying to incorporate more water into my diet. I used to drink maybe one glass a day (I drink alot of coffee in place). Today I have had about 3-4.

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

Hey minipro if you dont mind could you give me the times that you would eat the above food...thanks

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

oatmeal and a bagel with low cal jelly-745am
low cal soup and an apple-1130am
ONE chocolate chip cookie -11am
a banana and sugar free pudding-330pm
a yogurt-330pm

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

thanx mini pro....wow thats a pretty big gap from 1130-330pm!You dont snack on anything?What time would you eat in the evening for dinner?Im still guessing you are restricting calories......have you added up the calorie consumtion of these foods...im not judging you im just trying to help you see where things are going...
How about...
oatmeal (is that a cereal?)at 745am
bagel with jam at 10-10.30am
choc cookie at 12 noon
1230-1pm low calorie soup with bread or something with carbs and apple
2-3pm banana or yogurt maybe
5-530pm dinner with carbs
then maybe fruit with your lovely sugar free pudding....would you feel like your eating too much..tell me..

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

Thank you for your concern. I am sometimes limited for when I can eat because and am in classes (or teaching--well teaching assistant). I feel as if people will look at me and be like, why is she eating again? I never feel hungry during the day, probably because I am stressed out. Also, I have ate my dinner I suppose for tonight...

Probably 4 or 5 handful of cereal (Kashi miniwheat looking things--so 4 or 5 doesn't give you that much). Also a bagel with a one of laughing cow cheese and a few slices of pineapple. I feel as if I am over my limit so I will try not to eat the rest of the night (I feel as if green tea helps)...and I say over my limit because every cup of Kashi is 190 cal

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

Minipro i understand....r u scared to eat more..do u get anxious? Ijust feel for you coz im guessing it is an anxiety am i eating too much......Iwish i could help you believe me when i say...its all about control.

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

In general I am scared to eat more, but then I think (and I don't know how) but that fear leads me to binge..I just don't understand

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

Used to be the same for me....when my threapist gave me a homework to eat 3 meals a day and snacks i thought this guy is crazy....but he was correct..i had nothing to loose as the bulimia was not working for me..

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

I hate struggling everyday. It is especially hard when I have other stressors in my life. I am not too happy with what I ate today..

7:45am-eng muff with low cal jelly
11:15am-bagel with slice of fat free cheese and some baby carrots
3pm-1/2 cheese/pepp calzone, 1 WW pita with a wedge of laughing cow cheese

We will see how the rest of the day goes..

Posted 1 year ago #
binger
Member

minipro what is it that you ate which has made you feel like you are not happy about?

Posted 1 year ago #
minipro
Member

it was the calzone. however, that night went downhill from there. i started a new diet...maybe you have heard of it..called the alternate day diet or the up and down day diet. im hoping that it will at least help me control my binges. yesterday was a down day, where i only consume about 20% of my recommended calories (for me about 450). i actually did great with it (i know it doesnt sound healthy) but its a way for me knowing i cant (well try not to) binge everyday. today is an up day, where i can eat whatever i want (well until satisfied). so far so good..i ate some banana bread, a veggie burger in a pita, some veggie chili and an apple. i dont feel more hungry even though i restricted myself. im hoping i can stick with it for awhile. any input would be appreciated

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