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February 5, 2009 at 6:02 pm #497
Hi everyone, my names Jo, and Ive been struggling with binging for just over a year now…yes really! I feel so upset at my lack of control, and have decided that I really need to get this under control. I have tried at least once a month to start a new “diet”, though these never work. I thought maybe, after reading all the supportive posts on this forum, that this might be able to help me. I am not really looking to lose weight, just to try and regain vaugely “normal” eating habits. Does anyone have any good advice on how I can do this? I’m going to try and post some sort of progress on here, as a possible incentive not to fail this time!
Thanks guys!!!xxxxFebruary 5, 2009 at 9:59 pm #7295
Hi jo! well, i am pretty new to this forum as well but i just want to let you know what a great outlet it has been for me to try to change. im on my 11th day with no binging and it feels really great. everytime i feel that urge to go buy all my fav binge foods, i come here and write before i can go do it. the people are very supportive. its a fight for all of us. ive done the same thing with dieting then binging then dieting then binging. its not very much about weight for me either, but trying to be normal. and i also want to be healthy. and i know i dont feel good after a binge. good luck to you in the coming days. look forward to hearing more from youFebruary 5, 2009 at 10:18 pm #7296
You have done the hardest bit which is getting to the point where you accept that there is something you don’t feel is positive for you and are making a commitment to change.
My biggest piece of advice is not to expect it to change suddenly, and have an understandign that during this time you may well still have binges, but those binges don’t mean you have failed they just mean that you have something else to learn to help you get through it forever.
You need to believe in yourself though and the ability that everyone and that means you to has to control their own lives.
Have a journal and write down you feelings, lots of us find that we binge to supress feelings and once we accept that we have them and what they are, we can look at other ways to deal with those feelings rather than food and the binging reduces.
JacquiFebruary 6, 2009 at 11:37 am #7297
Thanks guys! Well I’m on my first day, after reading some of the other posts, I figured I may also try the 21 day thing…
Today has so far gone ok…I got up at normal time and ate my normal cereal breakfast with some fruit. I’m now home on my break, and as of yet haven’t eaten anything. This is a big change for me, as normally when I walk through the door, I go straight to the fridge and see what there is for me to eat. This inevitably leads to a binge.
Today I’ve decided to keep myself occupied. I’ll be going back to school in a while, but I’ll have a good lunch first, maybe make a sandwhich or some pasta or something, so i won’t be hungrey later. Then I’m going to meet my boyfriend tonight, so I’l have some dinner before I go. It’s easier not to binge when I’m out, or around other people, so hopefully I should be ok.
I must admit I’m very worried, even now the temptation to go and get another bowl of cereal, and another, and some crisps or something, is very strong. Does anyone have any ideas of how to distract themselves?
Thanks for your initial posts of support, I’m really determined this time to stop binging once and for all.
I’l post later if I get the need to binge
xxxFebruary 6, 2009 at 6:07 pm #7298
Here’s some ideas to distract yourself with — this one’s repeated everywhere, but it really works if you manage to push yourself out the door and do it: exercise. Go to the gym or just for a walk around the block, maybe with some music. Another one: WRITE. Journal about your day, about how you feel, about something else entirely, whatever. (Or actually write stories, if you’re into that.) If you like to play video games, that can be great too, ’cause it keeps your hands busy and usually requires you to concentrate. Or if there’s something you’re really into, like politics or gardening or history or whatever, browse the internet about it and read interesting blogs, articles, etc. These are just things that have worked for me — but maybe they’ll help and give you some ideas for something that works for you. GOOD LUCK, YOU CAN DO THIS!February 7, 2009 at 1:29 am #7299
great advice chowder!
I know right now it seems unimaginable not to eat the bowl box of cereal or just eat normal proportioned food. but i promise you it gets easier with habit. i have felt the exact same way with alot of the foods i binge on. I cannot imagine eating pizza and not ordering an entire large one for myself and eating the whole thing. yes, i know that seems disgusting but i used to do it. ive found to just try to not keep large amounts of those foods around. it would be really hard for me not to overeat on cereal. so instead i buy oatmeal packs, and then i just know to eat the one pack. I used to also binge on like loaves on banana bread, so now i only get it on special occasions and when i do i only buy a slice, i dont make it from home anymore.
I have no doubt that one day you and i both will be able to do these types of things without any problem and be able to eat normally. you are not alone, we are both fighting the urges/cravings/and anxiousness that you are. remember even if you binge once that doesnt mean you arent recovering. you may lose some battles, but you ultimately will win the war.February 7, 2009 at 11:08 am #7300
Thanks guys…yesterday went pretty well, no binging, and I ate three large but pretty healthy meals as a I planned.
I had a bowl of weetabix and some blueberries for breakfast, some soup with ONE slice of bread for lunch, 2 crackers as a snack (I’m weird, I like dry crackers ) and chicken with peas and pasta for dinner. I feel pretty good.
This morning I had another bowl of cereal, and my mum managed to tempt me into picking at the leftover snacks from my parents dinner last night…I only had a tiny bit though, so it wasn’t a binge. So far, things seem to be going ok.
Chowder: thanks so much for your great advice! I do enjoy the gym, although at the moment, its snowing here, so I can’t easily get to the gym, or go for a walk without slipping over on the ice hehee. I never thought of video games or anything, its a great idea! Thanks so much…I’m going to try them next time I feel the urge to binge.
So, even though I’m only halfway through day 2, I’m feeling pretty optimistic. Thanks to everyone for your words of support, its really helping!!
Jo xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxFebruary 7, 2009 at 4:45 pm #7301
It is great to hear that you are doing well. You sound motivated and optimistic which is great.
Where are you from?? have you had lots of snow, I am based in Cheshire england and we have had quite a bit in the last week but not as much as elsewhere I am sure.
JacquiFebruary 8, 2009 at 8:07 am #7302
Hi Jacqui, I live in Cotswalds, Surrey, and we’ve had loads of snow! Its starting to melt now though, so I should be able to get out more soon!
Well I’m feeling pretty proud, cos I havent binged in 3 days, which is really good for me! However, I am a little worried that its the weekend, I normally struggle the most during the day when I get home from school…that will be my big challenge. If I can get through the next week without binging, it will be a huge achievement…when I get home, I boredom eat, and once I’ve had even a little bit of food, I give up and turn it into a huge binge. I’m going to try all the new tips on how to distract myself though, and hopefully I’l find one that works really well for me!
I had quite a good day yesterday…I did end up eating quite a lot, but it wasnt a binge, I was just genuinely hungrey. I had my normal cereal, some snacks mid morning, then a youghurt and sandwich for lunch. I then had chicken for dinner,with a hot chocolate in the evening.. So overall, another binge free day. Feeling pretty happy with myself, and hoping this can continue.
You guys are helping a lot, thanksss
xxxxFebruary 9, 2009 at 1:50 pm #7303
urgg very disapointed…huge binge on day 4!
I have had like, 11 weetabix! I know cereal is my downfall, but thats just stupid!
I feel very disappointed in myself, and very very fat.
On the plus side however, I have now managed to stop. I havent eaten anything but the cereal, which is an slight improvement I suppose. I’m now going to go for a walk, and eat a very small and healthy dinner tonight. Any one got any inspiration of how to get over a huge binge, and get back on track?
When I was binging, my mentality totally changed, and I thought, why should I stop binging. But the second I stopped, all the guilt kicked in. Is this normal?
HELP!February 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm #7304
the way to move on is to just accept it for what it was. Yes you binged but that isn’t the end of the world, it doesn’t take away from the fact that you have had the good days before it, and it doesn’t meant that you can’t go on and have a lot more good days.
You have also had positives, rather than binging on the weetabix and then carrying on through the whol;e day you stopped, I mean how cool is that, it is one of the best steps you can make in this journey as you can start to realise that you don’t have to finish a binge just because you start one.
Also you are right to still eat, you should carry on and have the rest of the normal meals that you would expect to have for the day, missing meals out just sets you up to binge again because you get hungry and your blood sugar drops.
YOU CAN DO THIS.
JacquiFebruary 9, 2009 at 7:33 pm #7305
Hey, Joey, it’s not as bad as it seems! First — you stopped! That’s definitely something to be proud of; and guilt is totally normal (for us, anyway, since we’re trying so hard to control our binges), in my opinion, if you ate more than you’d planned. But! Without milk (since I don’t know what kind you use), 11 plain Weetabix biscuits are just 643 calories, the internet informs me. Sure, it’s more than you usually eat for breakfast by a long shot — but it’s not ridiculously much, especially if you eat lighter later. Honestly, I’ve had much bigger breakfasts, on purpose, to give me energy through the day, while planning lighter meals for later. It’s kind of like eating lightly throughout the day if you know you’re going to have a big dinner in the evening — only switched. So personally, I wouldn’t consider your 11 Weetabix, milk or not, as a binge. You slipped into the binge mentality a little, right? And that upsets you — but don’t forget that you stopped instead of continuing! I guess it all comes back to what you define as a binge, but personally, I wouldn’t call this day a failure for you at all. Just think back on how you would’ve proceeded in the past — you would’ve just kept eating other things, right? Well, you didn’t! That’s not just a bit of an improvement, that’s a whole lot! I know it maybe doesn’t seem like much when we’re impatient to seeing results fast, but this really has to be taken one step at a time, otherwise we just get frustrated and throw the towel in.February 10, 2009 at 10:18 am #7306
Thanks so much guys!
Well, after my binge yesterday, I went for a long walk, and then ate a healthy stir fry for dinner, and skipped pudding. I feel that I did my best to counteract my loss of control, and still feel really positive
Thanks jacqui and chowder…your support means a lot, and helps me get a better perspective on things. I know that things could have been a lot worse yesterday…weetabix have very low levels of fat, and are, I suppose, pretty healthy. My semi-skimmed milk, maybe not so hehee.
Ah well…so far today has gone well…I had a bowl of bran flakes and sultanas for breakfast (NO WEETABIX TODAY!!) and as of yet, am not hungrey for anything else. I came in from school on my break, and for the first time, came straigh upstairs and wrote on this forum, rather than go straight for the fridge. It feels great!
So, on with day 5 I guess…I’m feeling more derermined than ever after my slip up yesterday, and my current goal is to reach Friday without any more binging.
Jo xxxxFebruary 10, 2009 at 8:58 pm #7307
hey Joey i read ur journal and i want to tell you that it’s hard to believe that it’s ok to binge in ur first days , the important thing is that ur aware of it and learn from ur mistakes ,i find it hard to believe that it’s going to be ok …but that’s why we’re here koz we have people who’s going throught this like us and they can tell us to believe it’s going to be ok … Chowder,beartns87 and Jacqui and now me i’m telling you it’s ok and i’m telling myself as well , fake it untill it’s real !!!
good job on ur 5th day ur back on track and that’s what counts
i wish u even a better day tomorrow and wish me luck too koz i’m restarting the 21 days program 2moroFebruary 10, 2009 at 9:41 pm #7308
Jo that is really great.
It isn’t always about the binge but what we do after that, and you have made some really positive decisions which is great, be proud of them because you should be, we all know just how difficult those can be.
you have learnt that a slip is not the end of the world and that you go on. you will get stronger all the time and will find exactly what things work for you and make it easier and what doesnt which is what this is all about.
good luck for the rest of the week
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