Tips to stop overeating, stop emotional eating, stop eating fast food, stop eating junk food
Nervous to do this……
June 15, 2010 at 11:05 pm #2157
Hi i’m 17 years old…i’ve been reading some of the stories and got the nerve to sign up..i’m still not sure to do thismy heart it’s beating frantically but i know it’s the right thing if i want to overcome my overeating…so here it goes..my story..
Last year I got in a diet ’cause i didin’t like how chubby i was (118 pounds…what i wouldn’t give to be at that weight now…)..so i lost 9 pounds and everything was a great i felt amazing with my new weight 109 i was so proud of my self..but then i got obsessed with the idea that if i had been able to loose 9 pounds why couldn’t i shed some 4 or 5 more right? well i couldn’t have been more wrong..’cause that where my nightmare with food begins..i went on a summer vacation by myself to my grandmother’s and like usually nobody was home i stopped eating and when i did i felt self conscious about it..even if i ate a salad i had the need and once tried to throw up but i guess it was too hard for me so i just stop eating and after a while every time i looked myself in the mirror i hated the picture i saw… even though i’d managed to loose 2 more pounds….but then my parents arrived and i HAD to get used to eating again and that was SO SO hard..but i did it..after school started i was back to my old me..not worrying so much…but still obsessed about my weight but not so much….Then after a little while i went to my gynecologist (’cause of my period it wasn’t regular) so the doctor prescribed me some anti-conceptive ’cause he said i had PCOS..the first thing he told me was “Huh..It’s weird your not fat”….well i think he actually jinxed me (kidding:P) cause i didn’t stay that way for long..so imagine me an obsessed girl gaining weight…yeah pretty harsh…..after six months and 12 pounds gained my mom decided that i should quit the pill..i was thrilled about it ’till i got my bonus 5 MORE POUNDS!! and after that i guess i went to being more or less Anorexic to being a binge eater…for a while i blamed the pills but now i truly accept that i have BED..cause i’ve been of the pill fo about 8/9 motnhs..so that’s my story
I want to stop this i want to stop eating thing just for the “fun ” of it..and i would appreciate some support ’cause honestly i can’t tell my family..seriously can’t so please help me
ohh btw i’m 130 pounds 5’1 ft
thanxs really thanx for reading i know it’s kindda to long…i guess i got excited..well not really i guess i really had a lot in me more than i thought y had
thanks…June 15, 2010 at 11:19 pm #54336
Hi Jenn. Welcome aboard. ok maybe “aboard” isn’t the correct way to say it, but welcome. I’m so glad you were willing to face your problem. Your story is very touching, and I know exactly how you feel. So many girls here know how you feel too, so don’t be afraid to keep posting and updating. THere’s nothing to be ashamed or worried about First of all, I’m sorry to hear about your problems with pills and stuff. I’ve had BED for a while now, and it’s also recently that I’ve decided to face it. THe first step is to face your problem. After that, you need to have a strong minds set on being positive and believing that you CAN do it. I’ve failed too many times trying to overcome my BED, it’s indescribable. But what’s different this time, I believe, is that I’ve stopped to think about my problems, told myself I CAN DO IT (and actually believe it), and did something to change my situation. See, other times, I’ve only said “I can do it” or “I won’t binge again”.. but did nothing to change. this time, I’ve joined this webiste and have felt so encouraged ever since, and I’m changing my lifestyle in my diet/exercise, etc. and it’s really helping! I’m also ashamed to tell my friends and family about this, so again, you’re not alone in this. That’s why I’m so glad to have so many friends here who I can share my thoughts and worries with. You can do the same too. and it’d be great if you could find a friend or family member whom you trust to tell your problems. But if you’re like me, who’s too ashamed to tell them, it’s okay too ’cause you’ve got us! Know that BED won’t just go away in one day or in a blink. it takes time, just like it took time to develop. Don’t look at yourself with disgust. Look at yourself in the mirror and compliment yourself. Look at the good things in you. THis may be hard at first, but keep doing it. And hey, being alive is a gift already isn’t it? Through posting here I’ve gained a lot of self-confidence, and I’m looking forward to continue to hearing from you.June 15, 2010 at 11:46 pm #54337
tsengc thanks so much really what you said really encourages me to move on and i get what you said about always saying Yes i’m going stop today..been there done that.. but know i dont’ now i think it’s a crucial decision ’cause it will determine who i am as a person and the control i have over myself…i really appreciate your words thank you!June 16, 2010 at 12:04 am #54338
It seems like a lot of us got into the BED exactly the same way. Try not to blame yourself…it’s easy to do. I was in the best shape ever and decided to tweak my body and lose a couple more lbs. I didn’t have any to lose is the problem. I think my body intially went into starvation mode and I would overeat moderately b/c my body was starving. Before I knew it it spiraled out of control to the point where I am now. 25 lbs overweight…never ever thought I’d have a problem like this.
I just joined this comm as well, so I don’t have much exp but today was my first day binge free and I had a great day. Tell youreslf that you can eat anything you want, whenever you want when you’re hungry. Taking the limits off frees your mind up in an amazing way. I can’t believe it. I ate “normally” and chose all good foods, even when I had given myself permission to choose anything.
Hang in there!June 16, 2010 at 2:00 am #54339
Hey Jen..just wanted to say welcome to the forum. I think most of us can relate to the bingeing coming out of a restrictive/diet phase of our lives. Recovery for you will be learning how to eat normally without dieting/restricting and cope with life/emotions without turning to food. Hope you keep posting so you can learn lots of good strategies to overcome BED! ~LaurenJune 16, 2010 at 6:53 pm #54340
Thanks Lauren! i will keep posting:)
So yesterday after i logged out i was going to prepare dinner which i don’t know for you guys but for me it’s a really difficult challenge ’cause i’m exposed to binge which i ALMOST did but then i thought come on jenn you just logged out from a page where you said youu wanted to quit doing this..you have people that support you and that have been abel to overcome this why can’t you?..and that helped me get trough the rest of the night without bingeing!.
Today i woke up and even thought i felt the need to stay sleeping i got up and went to do exercise for an hour, then i got home and prepared myself breakfast without eating while preparing it (which it’s one of my problems..i always eat while i’m making something to eat) and lunch controlled my portions and didn’t feel ike i was loosing my mind ’cause i didn’t eat everything that was on the table!!
yeii i’m so happy!!!..i know every day won’t be as good this one but i think if i can keep my motivation than definitely i will get trough this!!!
Ohh i want all of you to know that you can count with me..it’s rare i know for people to trust other without knowing them but i’m pretty good at listening (this case reading..helping)..at least that’s what my friends have told me..so don’t doubt to express urselves:)June 16, 2010 at 7:00 pm #54341
Hi Jenn! Welcome!! I am SO happy for you that you have had a day that you can feel really great about, and proud of!!! Isn’t it amazing how treating ourselves well gives us such a happy boost??? And I’m so glad that you found this forum — the amazing amount of support here has made ALL the difference for me, and I hope it will for you, too!! Keep reading here and posting – it really does help!!June 16, 2010 at 7:59 pm #54342
Hello, Jenn, you know it’s not your fault that your life circumstances lead you to BED. So a good thing to start your recovery with is to forgive yourself, get off a diet and try to find nice things in life that give you pleasure and concentrate on them! Good luck!June 16, 2010 at 11:23 pm #54343
Aw Jenn!! great job last night and today!!! You are doing great! I know its hard to roll out of bed to go to the gym, but always worth it in the end with how it leaves you feeling ~LaurenJune 17, 2010 at 6:25 pm #54344
like i said i knew there would be days i would feel horrible and wanting to quit…well today’s one of those….i started my morning great had breakfast normally without bingeing and the head off to school to practice my graduation entrance..but as the day went on i don’t know my mood kindda went down…
when i got home i was really hungry..famish really and so i went to see what my mom had cooked..and i have this habit of before doing anything i open the bowl where the main plate (food) is an take a bite..and today i did it without realizing what i was doing ’till i had the food in my mouth and i was like…ok why did i just do that…but i know it may not seem like a problem..but that’s how i start and then say to myself well i wouldn’t really hurt if i ate this and that…but at east i can be proud that i ate just my salad today even though i wanted so badly to eat rice and beans (we’re dominicans )…i resisted the temptation…well not so much ’cause i took like three or four bite but still i’m proud ’cause didn’t ended up eating the whole thing…
One thing i can be proud about too is that when i was putting away the leftovers i don’t know why but i felt the need to eat some of it behind my mom’s back but i stopped my self and said umm ok are you crazy? this is your HOME you shouldn’t be sneaking arouund to eat..besides you just ate an ur not really hungry so i happily put everything away in the fridge yay:)!!
But what i think it’s making me analyze myself first it’s the support you give not only me but other members ’cause when i log in i start to read some of the journals and their experiences and the thing you guys write them it makes me want to get trough this thanks for all your support i wont stop thanking you ever! really.
Oh and something that has also helped in a way to stay as much as possible away form food even if what it’s helping me achieve this is a problem…it’s the fact that i’m going to college and can’t decide where to study i live in Dominican Rep. and i know my career (Law) will just be four years but i’m not sure..’cause i suffer from allergies and as soon as a i arrive to the states it’s gone like as if i never had so i’m tearing my head apart with this decision…trough out the day this are my thoughts:
study in D.R–>4 YEARS
” ” ” IN USA—>7 YEARS
allergies in USA=NONE
4 years of your life does not compares to spend 7 years so what do u want to do???
i know some of you might think i’m crazy but at least it is keeping me away of food… I guess every problem has positive sides too…well i’ll write soon at least writing here got me more motivated and my mood it’s a little better:)
and sorry about writing so much..i don’t know i like to write a lot…but i guess i have a lot inside me too.. so i apologize..but it will be like this alwaysJune 17, 2010 at 9:52 pm #54345
We don’t think you are crazy!! How cool that you live in the DR!! My friend just started an NGO there! So is studying an option in the States? Do you already have a study visa and what not? Hmm I guess it depends on where you want to end up living, here or the DR? If you are wanting to live in the States, you may need to study here to pass the bar, right? But if you want to practice in DR, maybe going for the shorter course closer to family may be a good idea? Great job resisting the urge to eat behind you mom’s back! And no big deal at all about eating a few bites when you saw the bowl of food! Its great you had a salad, but you should try to allow yourself some rice & beans if you want some! Best path is always the path with few restrictions! Doing great girl!! Bien hechoJune 17, 2010 at 10:51 pm #54346
Hey! Your study is so interesting.. I’m amazed at how much studying you’re doing. You’re doing a great job, don’t doubt that. And whatever you choose to do in the future, wherever you choose to live, it doesnt’ matter where or what, as long as YOU’RE HAPPY! plus, you can always move if you don’t get used to it. LIfe’s too short to waste. Do some crazy and adventurous things (but not too crazy too). ha. So proud of you for saying no. Seriously, seeing other people’s hard works really motivates me to continue on with facing my own problems and BED. I’ve had a little bit of struggle this morning as I was eating breakfast. Ate a little bit too much like extra stuff, but I didn’t binge : ) I guess that’s a good sign. Keep up with the good work you’re doing!Enjoy your day~June 18, 2010 at 12:20 am #54347
haha Gracias Lauren! it’s really cool about ur friend hope he’s doing great here!
I plan to work in the states..so i guess it will be better to study there.. i see that your right tsengc i mean life IS too short to be wasted..and it’s all about happiness in the end thanks a lot for those words
Tonight was a little bit of a struggle for me like breakfast was to you but don’t worry i know will get the hang of it.. i think one of my problems (don’t know if yours too) is that i want everything to happen quickly i mean i want to see the results right away and that is WRONG!…i’m trying to get over that..at least i’m not weighting my self obsessively like i used to…on a day i could weight myself three to four times and that was what determined my mood..but i’m so glad i got pass that…
I know that everyday will be easier..’cause i’ll learn to keep moving forward and when i learn that i know there will come a time when i wont even have to think about doing the right thing…just doing it!
Night everyone keep up the good work! we all have our internal struggles but will fight them off!June 18, 2010 at 12:07 pm #54348
That’s great that you’re studying law! Good for you…very ambitious (I’m a dancer hence the screen name lol). I know lots of attys, my boyfriend is one, my sister etc. Go with your heart on where you want to live and study. I’m trying to teach myself that I need to do what makes me happy, even if there is some sort of tradeoff. In fact, I’m moving w/my bf halfway across the country to somewhere I would never CHOOSE to live b/c I know that I love him dearly and will live anywhere in order to be with him. He’s moving b/c of work and to be closer to his children. The situation is a bit more complicated than that, but I’ll spare you the details. I’m sure you get what I mean.
I had a really hard day yesterday too…but we it looks like we all made it through!June 18, 2010 at 6:42 pm #54349
De nada Aw that is cool you plan to practice in the States! I know I always wished I could just wake up and have BED was gone, but it takes hard work, determination and patience….cuz in the end its just about making little steps of progress that lead you to where you want to be! Keep up the great work! ~Lauren
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