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cookiemonster
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Ahhh Nat so glad you are feeling better ! I have to do the same with the list. I think its a great idea and also to keep it close to you like it said in the article you posted. I like your strategies ! You see your food looks perfectly healthy and great ! No need to cut out carbs or sugar ppshhh lol !
Have fun at the Mexican restaurant !

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
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Oh J..I LOVE LOVE LOVE your action plan. Really SO good. Everyone on here should employ those distraction, coping and feel good strategies. REALLY good stuff girl. I am so glad that you are seeing that restricting the sugar just drives you back into that vicious cycle...and its not worth it. Trust me I eat sweets every day and I promise I am never bloated from it, the bloating just comes from bingeing on sweets. So once you get a few days post-binge, the bloating will go down, even if you are having a small treat each day. AWW I am so happy about the boy! I really hope he calls you but like you said, just go with the F.L.O.W. He sounds like a hottie McTottie I hope you have a lovely night friend. BIG hugs and kisses. ~L

Posted 7 months ago #
Joyce
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Nat, great action plan. Now you are prepared for that binge monster to come knocking on your door, you know exactly how to handle him. Slam that door in his ugly face! Enjoy your Mexican food!

Posted 7 months ago #
Sez
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Good evening mate!
Just read your post, and skimmed through your action plan. I read the action plan post this morning and didn't think much of it, but after reading yours I'm considering writing one up for myself. Hope it works well for you!!
I like your goals as well, I too like to write up my lists of goals helps me to get things done and feel good.
Ha and I know all to well that sugar goes STRAIGHT into your system... I have type one diabetes. Everytime I binged on sugary foods my blood sugar levels would sky rocket!!! And that was even after a major purging sesh. lolz so no more of that for either of us!!!
xxx lotsa luv Sarah

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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anou! glad you liked my plan Like you said, I should keep it close to me... I need to print it out and put it in my wallet otherwise if it's too much of an effort when Im about to binge, I will have no hope!

Gorgeous Loz, wooo! nice to see you approve of my action plan haha. You know what... When I would binge, I would restrict afterwards and thought that I lost weight because of the harsh restricting but I bet if I just ate normal after a binge for a few days I would still lose weight because of the water! But I never realised that.. so you're right, I CAN eat sugar and not be bloated - the BINGING makes me bloated. love yoU!!

Yay Joyce, I am gonna kick this binge bitcho in the arso!

Hey Sez, Im glad you're thinking of writing an action plan up just in case I think it's a great way to remind myself of the 'options' that I have. When I'm about to binge I just feel so overwhelmed and lose touch with what I truly want.

Hey everyone!

Last night was so goof to catch up with all my friends. I cannot believe how I lost touch with them when I had a bf, I feel so so guilty but glad that I have fitted back in nicely. Mexican was alright.. bit sloppy for me. I had a chicken salad inside a crsipy taco basket (didnt eat the basket) and it came with a side 'slop' of frijole and rice. Wasn't the greatest meal but I stopped when I was full and made sure I drank plenty of water.

In the back of my mind I was thinking.. 'Mmm you'll go home soon and you can eat chocolate and cakes, everyone will be in bed'. Then I remembered my Action Plan and used the power of thought to come back to reality and realise that doing that would get me no where. So I got home and instead of eating, I asked mum to give me a back massage! It was heaven, so much better than eating. I was so proud of myself.. food is not the only way to be entertained!

Today I focused on making my food really tasty so that I dont get bored and crave sweets.

B: Burgen toast with cottage cheese, sun dried tomatoes and poached eggs
S: lettuce leave filled with tuna and mayo and diced red peppers
L: beef and veggie stir fry with baby spinach leaves and feta
S: strawberries, cottage cheese, cinnamon and nuts
D: chicken breast stuffed with spinach and tomatoes and feta with side salad

Posted 7 months ago #
cookiemonster
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Hey Nat !

I know what you mean I am guilty of having lost contact with friends because of bf. Its hard because during the week we are often busy so whenever we have free time we just want to see each other. But I am getting a nice balance now ! And good friends always kinda forgive you and accept you back its totally normal it happens to everyone so dont feel guilty.

Its great you allready used your action plan and it worked ! Isnt it crazy how these random evil bingeing voices just creep up in your head out of nowhere?? Its almost like something is going to take over you !

Your food looks really delicious. You mustve felt satisfied with all that yummy protein goodness !

Posted 7 months ago #
Joyce
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Woooo hooooo, way to use that new plan of yours! What you said to Lauren is correct. If you eat normally following a binge, you still lose that binge weight. I have proof, I've done it! Never restrict, we know what restricing gets us, another binge on top of the one we just had. You should be proud of yourself, you keep making huge progress.
We are proud of you too!

Posted 7 months ago #
Bingemonsterbegone
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Hey Nat,
Just posted back a reply on my journal for you to read & answered a few of your questions. Just call me nosy rosy, being I had to come check out yours now too, I don't have time to read much tonite, but sounds like you have an action plan in place, so that is good! Here's wishing you a binge free day, sounds like you are making progress, atta girl! ~Megan

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
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Love you too J! AW I am so glad you had a nice night out with friend and are fitting right back in with them!! I know Mexican can be so hit or miss. But it sounds like you were all intuitive eating at the restaurant! And way to pull out your new plan right when you needed it! I think I'll take a massage from your mum too You are awesome..I can feel your strength all the way over here in America. Big hugs and kisses. ~Lozzie

Posted 7 months ago #
Sez
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Awesome to hear the action planed worked well for you on your first shot!
When I had a bf I def lost a lot of my social life, since we broke up (actually nearly 9 months ago now-but we still lived together till pretty recently) I have been having a great time making new friends and catching up with the old ones.
xox have a good night

Posted 7 months ago #
Lorena
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Hey Nat,

Well done on not giving in and not binging and i'm glad you had a nice time with your friends. You'll have to do it more and the more you go out to places and eat, the more the want to binge after will disappear!

Yeah i'm not a big fan of mexican. I went to one a had chicken in a fajita wrap and the wrap was soggy and sometimes thinking about it makes me feel ill. Oh my word, i've found a food that makes me feel ill!!! lol

Your food for today looks lovely though. Enjoy

Posted 7 months ago #
Bingemonsterbegone
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Wasssssssssup dragonfly? Or shall I say G'Day sheila! I know a lil bit Aussie.
My best friend just came back from Australia & New Zealand was gone 23 days, photos look amazing...
How old are you dragonfly?

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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anou! it really is a full time thing when you have a boyfriend haha, once you work during the day and see you other half, there's not a whole lot of time left for friends or just relaxing! glad you can find a nice balance

thanks joyce that made me really think when you said 'we get a binge on top of the binge we just had' now who the hell wants that!? I can honestly say EVERY time that I have restricted, I have binged so I now see there is absolutely NO logic to it haha. Thanks for re-enforcing that for me.

aw gday nosey rosey !! your a fair dinkum aussie girl now! Haha where in oz did your friend go? great barrier reef? so beautiful. I am 22 and not happy about it BAHA. Take me back to high school already.

Lozzie I did good didnt I!! That action plan is getting a good work out today too so I'm happy J tonight.

Hey Sarah, yeah it's definitely a big eye opener now that Im single. I can appreciate my friends more and realise that when I go into my next relationship, to make sure that I find a nice balance. At the time I didnt even realise how isolated I was!

Lorena, ugh now I keep thinking about my Mexican it makes me wanna vom! Haha. Sorry you had a bad 'mex'perience too it's not often that I ever turn my nose up at ANY food either haha

Hey all! I did well today!
I felt like overeating but I stopped myself and kept myself occupied.
I made sure I drank lots of water with meals and that really helped me to realise when I was full.
My food was sooo tasty all day I loved it and "enjoyed" all my meals.
I distracted myself after dinner by going for a big walk with a friend but was hungry when I got home so had a peach with cottage cheese, yum-O!

Get this! That guy Lynden who me and my friend met on Saturday night and got my number messaged me just a really short nice msg and I wrote back saying 'thanks for being our bodyguard on saturday night' and to let me know when he was in Geelong one time soon and I can show him around. AAaaaanyway I told my friend (who was with me that night and who has a BOYFRIEND may I add) everything that he wrote and that I had written back.. then she stalked him down on Facebook, added him and then wrote him a message saying 'thanks for being our bodyguard' and basically the same thing that I wrote to him! Haha, just thought that was a little wierd? I mean we dont even know him - she has a boyfriend - and she stalked him down on facey haha

Anyway im off to bed girls... sweet dreams to you all xxxx

Posted 7 months ago #
Louise
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I am always so behind on everyone's posts !! I come on here every day !!!
WOW, the action plan is amazing... i did read yours... very good... see that is what we need, when you think about it we all have enough in our lives to entertain us, to occupy us, its normally laziness that gets in the way of doing something productive.... so bloody great... right, that is 2 amazing things i have read on here on consecutive journals, so I am feeling pretty fired up for success now... Thank you Nat !!!!!
Yeah, I agree, lets all meet up ...it would be fabulous.. !!! Where is the middle of the world ????????????????????

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
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Hey J!! Sounds like you did great yesterday...nothing better than truly enjoying your food all day!! And keeping yourself busy after dinner with a nice walk and listening to that tummers of yours when you got back hungry..well done!! YAYYYYYYYYYY HOTTIE texted you!!!!!! Thats AWESOME! I need ALL the details when he comes to visit I feel love in the air :) Umm so about your friend...WEIRD?!? That strange that she has a bf then found him on FB and wrote the same message. Hmm that is strange. Did she actually tell you she did that? Looks like she's jealous Lynden is into you and not her! Hope you having a great sleep! ~L

Posted 7 months ago #
Joyce
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Nat, you are doing GREAT! Keep it up. Better watch out for that gf, looks like she is trying to make a move on your prospective new man, just kiddin! Hope you get the chance to get to know him better.

Posted 7 months ago #
Bingemonsterbegone
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Hey dragondly, just 22 eh, well I am almost double that number jeeze a youngen, I am an old fart! Hope you had a great day oh my Aussie sheila & soon to be dating a tree perhaps soon, lyndon is a type of tree in my neck of the woods just so yanno.

Read about the mosh pit- I had a flash back my senior year in highschool I went to see Bryan Adams in concert (25 years ago) & he was my first concert experience & I went with 6 friends, we got a hotel room etc. Anyways me & my best friend had never been to a concert before, so we went out & both bought new sweaters (crop style sweaters, a bit belly baring as that was my trend back then) Anyways we got all dressed up & went to the concert, the people were insane, pushing, pulling, sweating, drinking, screaming & we were among them, people were being taken out surfer style above the crowd. I actually passed out from heat exhaustion or crowd overwhelmed, or maybe because I didn't eat enough when I was drinking, I don't remember actually, anyways I passed out & another highschooler gal found me on the ground & took me out to get some air. I found my girlfriends shortly thereafter & man me & my best friend looked like hell- our cute crop sweaters were now long and past our knees (true story) they went thru the ringer that night from people pulling & pushing & I suppose spilling drinks on us & our makeup was melted off us us from the sweat etc. I still LOL because we hooked up with some of our male classmates that night & we were not looking too purdy. wow what a flashback...~ Megan

Posted 7 months ago #
cookiemonster
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Hey Nat !!
Ahhh I knew Lynden would call lol. Your friend might not be insensible to his charms even though she has a bf haha She does look kinda crazy now but at least you will be able to see his pics through her FB ! And I find your reply to his message perfect !

Posted 7 months ago #
jent
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Wowzer nat -- cute boy action! Woot....

Jen's flashback...age 13 -- first concert - Twisted Sister. I was in shock...what were my parents thinking. Got trampled and got beer dumped all over me. Road around on the shoulders of someone named "The Goat"....now that was the 80's....sometimes I wonder how I made it out of my 20's alive!!!

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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Hey Louise, so glad I could inspire you. Give that action plan a go, it has helped me so much! I think the middle of the world would be an ocean of some sort haha no idea. Lets meet in Antarctica!

Loz, you will be the first to know goss on Lynden. Oh im so glad you think my friends actions were wierd!!! yeah she told me when we went for our walk.. i was like 'um huh? you tryna cut my lunch are ya?' ahah then she got all embarassed. i hope he comes to visit soon

Joyce, I know! she's a little jealous that I am single. She has been with her bf for 5 years and has doubts about her boy. I think she liked to have some sort of male attention on the side to keep her happy.

Hey old farty! hahaha well you have a very young and vivacious personality. age is just a number. okay so what you're saying is, im a dirty little bug chasing after a tree for a date? meh, i can deal with that hahaa. OMG!!! ROFL your mosh pit experience!! BAHAA sounds like mine but you SCORED at the end of it?? Now THAT is pretty bloody impressive, I need some tips, come on...

Thanks Anou, oh im glad you thought my reply was okay I just wanted to keep it casual and no pressure or seeming to eager. Hopefully he comes down to my town soon.

Jendogga..THE GOAT! WHAT A NAME! I love that you said you 'road' around on him ahhaha I am honestly laughing out loud at work right now. Phhewwww ahh funny shit.

I was sick last night ended up having to sleep on the couch so I was closer to the toilet. No idea what it was but by morning I was fine so I still managed to go to work. Feeling a little off though and not sure if I want to eat anything that I packed...

Oo oo oo!! I had vegemite and cheese on toast for breakfast! I had forgotten about my vege until you have all been bringing it up. Man - absolute heaven!

B: vegemite and cheese on toast
S: tuna and mayo in lettuce leaf
L: eye fillet salad with feta
S: strawberries, nuts and cottage cheese
D: ended up having fish last night for tea so stuffed chicken breast is for tonight
S: NAN'S DESSERT!! It's always a suprise what she brings so Im excited

xxxxx

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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was just having a bingie tickle at work...
bought a bag of chocolate frogs out of the work lolly box... uh-oh
Ate ONE (< **note: O.N.E... 1!!!) and am satisfied?
I think I should go home, this is odd behaviour.

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
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Hey girl....hmmm well it may be feeling out of wack leftover from being sick all night. Don't do it love. Its not worth it. Let yourself have one more frog and then toss the pack if you need too. You can buy more another time when you are really wanting them again. Do you know whats giving you that tickle?

Posted 7 months ago #
Sez
Member

MMMMM Vegemite on toast yuuuuum!!!!
Sorry to hear you were not feeling to well!!!
Agree with Lauren about the frogs!!!
xxx Sez

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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I was satisfied after me one froggy but later in the day I felt hungry but had no food left so I ate another one. All done and dusted and the binge monster has gone! Ready to go home and relax with the family.. Im the only kid home tonight so I'm gonna lap up some attention and score a free massage off Nan. Yes!!!!

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
Member

No worries with 2 froggies!! GREAT job holding up your boxing fists to the binge monster and kicking his arse! Enjoy the time with your fam. XOXO

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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Thanks Loz-bang!

Just me wanting to note a few things:

I cleaned out my room after work, feels so good! I could not even see my floor. It was still a mess from everyone going through it to look for the festival tickets. I put half of my clothes in a box to sell at the market and it kept my mind off eating. Now Ive got a nice sandlewood candle burning in my room so it's nice for when I hop into bed.

Dinner was nice, I ate a little of everything that I wanted (even a bit of pasta - biggie for me cos im a pre low carber) and drank water and stopped before I was too full.

Then came dessert... Nan made banana cake and we had it with low fat ice cream. I had a serve and wanted to go back for seconds but instead I ate a square of dark chocolate. Then... mum got a box of favourites chocolates out I was like 'uhoh here we go im gonna go nuts!' but instead I thought, go and have one more piece of dark chocolate and you will be able to stop. If you have the milk chocolate it will just make you want more and dark chocolate tastes better anyway! So that's what I did and now I am satisfied and wish I didnt even eat the Banana cake, I really didn't need it, but it's all part of learning

So overall today I didnt eat THAT healthy but I didn't binge so I am doing well. I will try to just have the few pces of dark chocolate instead of having dessert next time ... and try not to have chocolate throughout the day unless I'm really craving. I also need to remember to:
* Eating on a small plate
* Eat slowly
* Drink lots of water with meals

Posted 7 months ago #
Louise
Member

Yo yo.. well the frogs situation sounds well under control..
No, i dis agree, i think we should be able to enjoy dessert, especially nan's dessert.... its not to fill us up or provide nutrition, its simply to indulge in and enjoy.. so please don't think of it like that... be glad you had some and enjoyed it, and congrtulate yourself more more more for only having one piece SERIOUSLY !!!
Love the pop concert story... my first one was New Kids on The Block... oh my !!! I screamed until i was blue in the face and my voice was hoarse,... I got to the front and I am convinced Joey McIntyre smiled at me.. i was delirous for days... ahhhh bless me.. I wa ssoooooo in love with Joey ha ha ha ha
I am liking your strategy, although, and i am sorry if i sound like i am preaching, but they say not to drink too much WITH food. Before your meal, about 20 mins yes, but while you are eating it dilutes the acids in your stomach that break down the enzymes in the food so that your body can digest it easily... just a little tip..
Enjoy the massage xxxxx

Posted 7 months ago #
Lorena
Member

Hey Nat,

You did great today, well done you, especially on eating the frog and not having more!! Thats awesome. And well done on listening to yourself about the chocs later on. You're doing really well.

Was the banana cake nice? I love banana cake but don't have it much at all. I think only twice in my life lol but when i have its been so gooooooooood. If it was good, don't wish you didn't have it. The main thing is you enjoyed it and didn't binge.

Go you!!

Posted 7 months ago #
cookiemonster
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Aww Nat sorry you were feeling sick like that its no fun. I hate that !
I was so happy when I read your posts and saw how you avoided bingeing. It makes me learn so much. And I am the same with milk chocolate, it always triggers me to want more. As soon as a piece of delicious milky chocolate touches my taste buds, its like a drug lol ! Its soooooo goood I find it easier to have after a nice filling meal when you are allready full and to not buy a huge amount of it. But dark chocolate is just rich and intense and satisfies just with a little piece !

Thanks for those reminders. I have to remind myself that I can have sweets ANYTIME I want and really stop and ask myself do I REALLY want it ? Because often I just have it and after I am like oh I couldve been satisfied without but oh well you live and learn. And I have to eat slowly too. Water I allready drink a ton lol

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
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Hey sweet J! Is banana cake like banana bread? and can I borrow your Gran for a week? It sounds like you did well yesterday...want to come clean my room? Eek I need to start going thru my clothes as I have a ton from even 10 years ago that I never wear and hate that I need to donate to charity before I move...Loz needs some motivation lol! You did great at dinner, eating a bit of everything and you know I have to agree with Louise. I wouldn't try and refrain from Gran's magic delicious desserts. Just eat a small portion, guilt free, and ENJOY (so I can hear about it later and drool from across the world ) Its ok to have treats! And telling yourself you are going to try not to have them, is just going to make you feel guilty if you "cave". So give yourself permission to have what you want, if that particular night you really don't want it, don't eat it, but if you do, eat it and enjoy it! I think its good you went for the dark chocolate since it is more satisfying then milk. And like you said, what matters is NO BINGEING! Well done my lovely J. XOXO ~Lozzie

Posted 7 months ago #
Bingemonsterbegone
Member

Hey dragonfly,
Look at you aren't you cute as a bug! Adorable you are, I am not picturing you Chasing after a tree- ROFLMAO- I was just sayin.... Yeah I still feel like I am 18 & don't look too old fartish either! Perhaps you had a touch of fast food, that is what I call it when the food just flies outta you, get it fast food!
Musta been the vegemite! I know that would turn my tummy off. Bleh.... Hope your feeling better again Here's wishing you another binge free day. Megan

Posted 7 months ago #
Sez
Member

Hey Nat,
Pretty picture girl!! I like your goals.
And who can say no to banana cake?? I know I can't
Have a good Night
xxx Sarah

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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Hey Louise, yeah I know I shouldnt feel guilty bout the banana cake, thanks to all you guys im feeling fine about it now and thanks for the tip with the water, i took your advice today and drank before meals not during!

Lorena, yes the bnana cake was so good, nan always bakes the best sweets thanks for making me feel better about eating it and glad i didnt binge.

hey anou! yeah dark chocolate is the shit isn't it! i find it so much easier to stop after a few pieces. And yeah I need to focus on if I REALLY want the sweets too. sometimes i eat them just cos theyre there. but it all takes time and practice, we will get there

Sup Loz! Yeah banana cake is like the bread I guess.. it's just like a vanilla tea cake with mashed up bananas in it to give the flavour. Then nan just sprinkles icing sugar on top instead of full fatty icing so it wasn't too bad for me anyway, i should NOT feel guilty!

thanks megan. no tree chasing today haha, i sat on my arse all day and it went numb, just thought you might like to know that. yum. haha love the fast food vision I have now.. but it WAS NOT the vegemite! Dont knock that shit missy! haha.

Thanks Sez, no as you can see, i couldnt say no to the banana cake haha they are just way too good aren't they!

I uploaded an avatar for you all to put a face to name I might only leave it up for a few days because im scared someone will find me on here that I know so take a mental picture haha

Today was great food wise! We even had this massive basket of fresh home made sausage rolls and blueberry and white chocolate muffins come in as a thank you from a client but I had already packed my lunch and didnt really really reeeeallly (haha) feel like it so I declined. I'm looking forward to some dark choc tonight anyway. Here's my food for today:

B: special k and skim milk
S: cruskits with chicken cheese and tomato
L: chicken salad
S: berries and cottage cheese
D: something with mince... will soon find out as my mum is here and I have to go!!

* I have something to open up about in my next post but I need some more time to write about it... will post soon

xx love you all

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
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UGH! Just got a dagger to my self confidence... I just got told by the guy that lives with me that I look like Ugly Betty That really just ruined my night. I was feeling good today until then.

Besides that, here's what I wanted to open up about...

I think my parents are going to divorce yuk, I hated typing that. I haven't really spoken to anyone about this but I would really like to have some support from outside along the way. Things have been rough between them for a while but now I really think it's a matter of 'when' rather than 'if'. They really are such a great couple in all honesty but they really dont 'try' to make it work and mum says shes not 'in love' with him anymore. I mean, I can see it from both sides but mum talks to me about it every now and then and I want to help her but I dont want them to end it. I know Dad would not know what to do with himself while Mum would cope okay. If anyone has any advice for me or what I should say to mum I'd really appreciate it.

Truly, thank you to everyone on here that posts to me, it means the world to come on here every day and know you will all understand. Much love xx

Posted 7 months ago #
cookiemonster
Member

Hey Nat !

Yayyy you put a picture! You are so pretty and I love your haircut, exactly like I pictured it
I cant believe that idiot said that because you dont look like Ugly Betty AT ALL I can assure you ! Maybe he meant it as a compliment or something, sometimes guys are clueless like that lol Dont even let that get to you !

Ohh I am so sorry about your parents. I know exactly how you feel because my parents just divorced, they were together for 22 years. Its very weird because its not the same as if they divorce when you are a kid, you are all grown up now but it still hurts. I feel very worried sometimes. I want them to rebuild their lives, I mean its hard when you are like 50 and you have to re start like that, I dont want them to end up alone you know what I mean?? It terrifies me as I want them both to be happy. But since I am older now I am able to accept that they werent in a happy marriage no more and there was definitely not any hope left. My dad always treated my mom like crap and that pained me alot as well because it made me have bad feelings towards him even though I love him so its hard when our parents disappoint us.
You could talk to your mom maybe and find out more how she is feeling to understand her point of view. Because if she really is sure about her decision and it might make her happier, than you cant deny her happiness. My mom has been better and better ever since the divorce its like a huge weight is off her shoulders. But I understand that you would feel bad for your dad, but I am sure sure with time he would be able to deal too. After all, right now I see my parents as super vulnerable but I know they are strong since they went through so much in life.
I dont know what else to tell you because I know its hard And I hated just saying that to people because they were all shocked when I told them about it.

I hope the situation gets better. You never know maybe there is still hope !

Take care I am sending you lots of love xoxox

Posted 7 months ago #
iMirm
Member

I LOVE IT!! You look great in that photo chick. It never ceases to amaze me how attractive BED sufferers are lol.

Posted 7 months ago #
Bingemonsterbegone
Member

Hey beautiful dragonfly,
Albeit he meant you look like the "real" ugly betty- America Ferrera- she is drop dead gorgeous, have you seen her in real life? She is beautiful, just like you, here is some pics for you of when she is not dressed up in her ugly betty gear!

http://images.google.com/images?client=safari&rls=en&q=America+Ferrera&oe=UTF-8&um=1&ie=UTF-8&ei=cMlqS8d-0d-cB-jkoYYG&sa=X&oi=image_result_group&ct=title&resnum=1&ved=0CBgQsAQwAA

Sorry to hear about your parents spit, it is never easy, but just realize that sometimes life is not easy,things happen, people change. Big huggeroo's. Have a binge free day beautiful dragonfly- you are an awesome chicky you tree chaser you! Megan

Posted 7 months ago #
Lorena
Member

Hey Nat,

Erm is your housemate blind? Maybe he looks like ugle betty coz you certainly don't. You're so pretty!!

Aw hun, thats really sad about your parents. It's got to be hard for you as you love them and noone wants their parents to split. Do you think that in the longrun, they would be happier alone and has your mum said why she is not inlove anymore? The thing is life is too short to be unhappy especially when it comes to love. How long have there been problems?

Maybe ask your mum what she would plan to do if she was alone? What is it she wants in life.

Sorry this isn't much help.

Food looks nice and well done on listnening to yourself and not have a muffin because they were there x

Posted 7 months ago #
Louise
Member

First of all......... you're god damn GORGEOUS !!!!!!!
Ok, my parents were married 25 years before they seperated... then they were sperated for several years before taking the DIVORCE plunge...
Sweetheart, it is absolutely heartbraking, but believe me it really is for the best. I can only go by my parents divorce, but once you see them re build their own life, and become happy people again, you will know deep down that it is better for everyone. it is a difficult situation for you, as not only are you going to grieve, but you also have to be there for both of them, and offer your support and understaning... and wipe away any tears, while dealing with your own hurt....You are strong and you can deal with this, i know you can! There is always a silver lining.. I am closer to both of parents now than I ever was while they were together.. it is only in recent yesrs that i am really getting to know my dad for who he is, rather than him just being dad, who put the bread on the table.. and mum and i couldn't be closer now... so there is a whole new dynamic to your relationship with them both to 'embrace' and nurture...
If you ever want to 'chat' about this, please do ask...always here to help
LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU !! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
Member

THERES MY BEAUTIFUL J!! Love the picture...and F that dude..you look nothing like Ugly Betty..IDIOT!

Oh sweet girl I'm so sorry to hear about your parents. Mine got divorced when I was 15 but I probably am not the best to advice because they had a horrendous marriage so it was actually a huge relief when they got divorced. I think all that you can do is be supportive, and look at it from their perspective, if they aren't happy and in love, they deserve to have that. My mom is now in another 10 year relationship and is by far the happiest she's ever been. My dad has been jumping from relationship to relationship and is convinced he "needs" to be married again, and while the divorce was much harder for him, he has grown a lot as a person from having to go through it and find ways to be ok on his own. So focus on loving and supporting them, and realizing that this may be the best way for them to both find more happiness in their lives. Hang in there J..I know this is a hard time. Thanks for opening up to us friend..let me know if I can do anything at all. HUGS, Lozzie

Posted 7 months ago #
tara
Member

Hey Nat. I went through my parents getting divorced twice. First time I was 4 yrs old. Second time when my dad divorced my step mom who was a mother figure for 14yrs. I have been devastated by both as I alwasy felt guilty and caught in the middle.
Why guilty I have not idea, but may be coz I failed to stop it or stop the pain of each hurting party. My advice is for you not to get in the middle as much as you can and even if they indirectly drag you into it, make a point that you won't. On the other hand, you need to reassure each of your parents that you love them and that no matter how unfair one of them may be to the other, you will not take sides and your love for them will not be affected.
Trust me I speak from experience. Just give both love and support and reassurance that your love to both is unshakable. I always tell my dad he is the lousiest husband but the perfect dad!

Posted 7 months ago #
Sez
Member

Hey Nat, Ugly Betty isn't ugly she's just has an interesting individual style!! There is def worse people to look like than her!
I'm sorry to hear about your parents, that can't be nice having to deal with that. My parents did break up once (for about 5 years when I was 6-11) but they are strange and got back together after all this time. I don't really know what i'd do if they split again now... I guess it's better it happens as your mum's not gonna be happy staying in a relationship shes not happy in. Your poor dad too
Sorry you're in such a dumb situation!
Hope everything works out for the best.
xxx Sarah

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
Member

** NOTE: I promise not post such massive messages after this! haha

You are all too sweet, I am speechless Thank you for caring so much about me, it's really touching since we haven't even met face to face but you all make me so happy.

So here's the details... Dad puts in no effort to look good or to connect emotionally to mum whlie Mum cares a lot about her appearance.. but on the other side, Dad is super laid back and has a chilled out personality which is awesome - and Mum is uptight and gets narky at him over everything (probably because he doesn't try to look good or notice Mums efforts) so it just all goes round in circles and they're never happy with each other.

Mum has also lost a bit of weight recently and is getting heaps of compliments. Dad doesn't take heaps of notice so Mum probably thinks she can do better.. but the thing is, Dad is just so content with Mum it doesnt matter what she looks like which is a good thing! UGH! So it's really both of their faults and they need to work it out but they haven't even tried talking about it.

I don't think Mum is attracted to Dad anymore which makes me so sad... he should just put in more effort to take care of himself and to notice mum and mum should realise that he loves her despite her looks which she should be grateful for. My dad is totally blind to what is going on, he knows mum is sad but he doesnt know why because she doesnt speak to him about it. If mum splits up with him, he will be so devestated and he hardly has any friends that werent mums in the first place because he wasnt born here.

Anou, you are so beautiful. It's very comforting to know that you can relate to me and I'm sorry you're parents went through the same thing. It is really hard for them to start over at their age. My parents 25th wedding anniversary is coming up on Valentines Day it will be so tough for them. It's strange because it's not really a one sided thing. I can see it from both sides...

Thanks Mirm, you're such a cutie

Megan, America ferrera is hot isnt she!! thanks for the link, although I know the guy meant the 'Ugly' version haha. Thanks for the support, I really I hope I find someone like your hubby and get along with him forever. Im scared I wont be that lucky.

Lorena, no thank you for the post, dont think you're not helping, I really appreciate it. Read above to get more detail about mum and dad. It's a hard one

Louise, aww you make me embarassed but Ive been told to accept compliments instead of shrugging them off so THANK YOU SEXY! I'm sorry about your parents too but I am so glad that the outcome was a good one. So there is hope that everything will be okay! You just made me so happy!

Lozzie hahahaha You AAAAaaaalways know how to make me happy. I will go home tonight and tell him that I am Sexy Betty Thank you for being here for me girl. I really hope they can sort things out and Im sorry that you had to go through such a rough time when you were so young that must have been really hard.

Hey Tara, thank you so much for your advice, you are so sweet. You're right haha I could totally tell my dad that same thing. I will try not to get caught in the middle, after all it is up to them to work this out.

Sez, thank you hun. That is so great that youre parents are back together and are happy. Maybe all mine need is a break to sort themselves out personally.

Today has been good everyone - besides I was totally hanging out to have this chicken salad wrap that I used to aaaalways get from a cafe across the road... but just got back and they ran out of the PITA WRAP AAAAAND CHICKEN!! I was devo so I had shitty dry tuna instead and it ruined my day ahaha Better get that 'dont sweat the small stuff' book out for a re-read ) so I ate a chocolate frog to make me feel better - bad move DO NOT EAT FOR EMOTIONAL REASONS! But it was just 1 and there was a whole bag there.. I had a cup of tea and calmed down.

B: scrambled eggs on toast with cottage cheese and tomato
S: cruskits with ham cheese and tomato
L: tuna moutain bread wrap with salad and mayo + Spearole Tea
S: one choc frog and strawberries and cinnamon
D: ?

Posted 7 months ago #
Joyce
Member

Nat, no way do you look like the Ugly Betty character! Don't know what that guy is trying to do, but whatever it is, it isn't nice at all! Is he a jerk? I think so!

Sorry about the situation with your parents. Do you live with your parents? If so, that must make it really hard to witness all of that hurt. It sounds like your Dad is going to be devastated when your Mom springs the news on him. Men live in their own little world, so oblivious to everything that goes on around them except what is on the television. From what you said, it seems like your Dad is still content and happy in the relationship and still in love with your Mom too. Yet after all these years, he has gotten too relaxed in the relationship and stopped doing those special things a woman needs to make her feel special and loved. On the other side of the street, your Mom has been making an effort to gain the attention of her husband again. Well, if he doesn't notice her efforts, I guarantee, someone else will! Sorry Love, I don't think there is anything you can do to fix this for your parents. It looks like the ball is in your Dad's court, he is going to have to pick it up and take off running if he wants to win his wife back again before someone else sweeps her off of her feet. Too bad he doesn't even realize what is going on. Just give each of them your support, and by all means, don't feel guilty for not being able to stop this tragedy. All my love sweetie, Joyce

Posted 7 months ago #
Lauren
Member

First of all J..I LOVE YOUR LONG POSTS! All of us are infected with verbal diarrhea..and I LOVE IT!

Ok so after hearing the history with your parents, hopefully they won't end up getting divorced. They just need to have a good sit down and have a major talk. It sounds like your mom needs to realize how wonderful it is to have a hubby that loves her so much regardless of what she looks like but your dad needs to recognize and compliment her efforts to look good and maybe try and take care of himself too. That really isn't that big of a issue if they can meet halfway! But I guess they are adults and need to work thru it themselves and if they don't want to, all you can do is be supportive. I really hope everything works out for the best J.

Auuughhhh so sorry about that chicken pita that you were looking forward to and they didn't have!! I HATE THAT!! Yesterday I REALLY wanted a vegan blueberry muffin w/ my coffee and I got the call to come into work right when I got to the store AND they didn't have any muffins left...that was quite annoying..so I feel you Maybe you can look forward to it tomorrow! Haha we both need that Don't Sweat the Small Stuff book haha. Have a great weekend my lovely J. MWAHH ~your Lozzie

Posted 7 months ago #
Lorena
Member

Hey Nat,

Maybe chat to your dad. Tell him that he needs to make more effort and compliment your mum. Afterall every woman needs to hear compliments.

Oh no!! Shame you didn't get your wrap but haha you did make me laugh about the tuna hehe.

Posted 7 months ago #
jent
Member

Hi Sweets - I had posted to you yesterday but our computers went wonky at school and it got erased and I did not have time to rewrite it. From today's post...it seems like maybe it's a mid-life crisis type stuff. It may pass. My parents are divorced (dad 2X) and the only thing I can say is that you should try to remain impartial and don't get involved as much as you can. Love and respect both for who they are and what they are capable of emotionally and so on. They will appreciate you loving both of them no matter what. They will figure the rest out between the two of them. Good job on your eating. Love You, Jen

Posted 7 months ago #
Joyce
Member

Nat, how ya doin today Babe? Hope things are looking up!

Posted 7 months ago #
cookiemonster
Member

Hey Nat !
I am proud of you for just stopping at one frog. Sometimes you just need to finish up the meal on a positive note with a good taste when what you ate wasnt up to your expectations. Usually these situations would set me up for binges... I HATE when you crave something and then something happens and you have to settle for something crappy. But its not the end of the world and you handled it well. Besides there will be many other times where you enjoy good food.
Your parents situation sounds like maybe it could still be fixed if they communicate with each other and put in more efforts to understand each other on both sides...I dont know of course but with mine it was really really really bad and just not fixable AT ALL. But no matter what happens we are here for you and you will just have to try to stay neutral ( its so hard not to be involved, and sometimes your parents do try to involve you its the worst)
have a great evening Sexy Betty

Posted 7 months ago #
Nat
Member

Oh my god, just started to type this post and an Ugly Betty ad came on.. haha

Thanks Joyce, thanks for checking on me Yeah I do live at home with my parents. Thanks for talking that out with me, that really helped to hear it back. I think I should talk to Dad just quietly and tell him that he should try to put in a lot more effort. I mean if they can both work hard to work this out instead of just giving up straight away then at least they know they both tried.

Lozzie, Thank you babe (do you guys call your girlfriends 'babe' over there? haha) you're right, they need to meet half way! They both cant see it from the other persons angle and it's so annoying. Im hanging out for my wrap on Monday now instead woo!

Lorena, thanks for the advise, i think thats what I need to do - have a chat to my dad. He's very easy to talk to and he listens to and takes on my opinions all the time so I think thats a great idea.

Hey Jen, Im going to do exactly that. Be there for both of them. They know I love them both equally so I will give Dad the heads up.. and then let them sort it out because they're the only ones that can do it.

Anou, thank you! I was so pissed bout my wrap haha. I ended up having just one more frog later in the day but didnt binge. I'm sorry that your parents divorce was really bad In a way I guess I am lucky that it is not really horrible and maybe it just needs some work. I'm definitely going to stay away from taking sides...

...

So last night.. I overate
Felt like crap, all bloated and couldnt sleep until 3 or 4am. I kept thinking about breakfast?!!! Far out my mind is twisted.

I got up early and ate a bowl of cereal... then went back and had one more small bowl. I felt bad - I really need to work on not feeling guilty! Then I headed out and did a photo shoot which took a few hours. Then...

L: 3 x Rye Cruskit with tuna, cherry tomatoes, mayo and parmesan. I wasn't full so I had 3 more Cruskits with vegemite and low fat thin cheese. Do you guys have Cruskits where you live? They're really light rice cake sort of things - about 30 cal per 2 biscuits! THEN...

S: small bowl Natural Yoghurt with a 'NUKED!!!' muesli and fruit bar and a small spoon of low fat ice cream mixed in. SO GOOD!
THEN... I still wanted sweets so I ate another museli bar and about 4 squares of dark choc with a coffee. I felt like binging but instead I came on here.

I feel guilty.
Mum bought me a 'How to Meditate' book so I'm going to go sit in my room and read that to take my mind off food.

*NOTE TO SELF - the Dark chocolate ALWAYS settles down my sugar cravings and I love eating it! I need to remember to just eat the dark chocolate instead of all this other sweet food that Im eating for the sake of it.

I should go for a walk, I havent been exercising much at all lately and I feel slack. I really need some more motivation!! Any tips?
I counted calories the last few days. I need to stop. It only makes me feel guilty as I add up what Ive had each time I eat. So, no more counting calories.

-xxxxxx-

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