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  • #3451

    tonks
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    hi all,

    Some extensive googling and reading through some sometimes helpful but often unhelpful websites about binge eating has finally brought me to this forum.

    I have no idea if it will help to talk about or read about it but it’s nice to see there are people out there who feel the way I do.

    I have been a big girl for as long as I can remember – I had a pretty poor home life during childhood but at almost 26 years old I don’t think it’s so much of an issue. At one stage of my life I was really big, almost 160kg’s. I just couldn’t stop binge eating, it was a vicious cycle of depression and low self esteem.

    It was then that my Mum sent me to get a lapband. The lapband did change my life, it was a serious wake up call for me. I think it was the combination of self esteem gained from losing weight and the actual band itself that helped me actually gain control of my eating. Eating stopped because a massive focal point of my life, but I always mentally counted calories and exercised as well.

    I lost over 80kg’s and my life stopped revolving around my weight and food. I met a man and fell pregnant. I am not sure what triggered it off but during pregnancy I started the binging again.

    I gained 40kg during pregnancy. After I gave birth I decided to get back into exercising. I struggled to control my eating but exercised every day at high intensity for sometimes up to 2 hours. This was how I lost 30kg’s, almost back to my pre pregnancy weight.. but it wasn’t like the first time. I feel like I am barely hanging on. Always obsessing over food, going all week depriving myself of food and then letting it all go in one night of binging to the point where I feel sick. Sometimes I throw up. It’s not easy to binge with the band, but it’s not impossible. Sadly, you learn to get around it. The exercise isn’t cancelling out the binging anymore and I am yoyo-ing at my current weight. I am worried I will give up entirely and it will all come back on again and more .

    I have tried talking to a therapist but I really don’t think it’s helping. He says I have a generalised anxiety disorder but I haven’t been given any way of changing myself. I don’t want eating and food to control my life anymore, I want to stop thinking about it and letting it consume me.

    It’s nice to know there are people that understand, it’s hard sometimes as some people don’t understand why you can’t just stop. Why you can’t have food in the cupboard because you might binge on it. Why you don’t just eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full. I’d like to be one of those people who maintains a healthy weight without thinking about food at all.

    I hope that I can find some answers here.

    Thank you for listening to my story.

    #80425

    realitychekin
    Participant

    Hi Tonks,

    I’m really glad you found this forum and told your story. It’s a big step to actually post your personal struggles. You should be very proud of yourself for doing that!

    I also suffer terribly from binging. It makes me feel out-of-control, sick, worthless, crazy, disgusted with myself, isolated, guilty… so full yet so emotionally and mentally drained.

    I am at the beginning stages of really coming to terms with the fact that I have to find some way to help myself.

    I’m a mom too, and I think it makes it even harder to take really good care of yourself and pay attention to your own needs when you’re putting the needs of your little one first.

    Often times when I feel the urge to binge, I literally force myself to sit down and read some postings on this forum, or respond to other people’s posts. Sometimes it helps me to put things into perspective and not lose myself to a binge. It doesn’t work every single time, but it’s a start. Sometimes when I want to binge, I write out all my crazy thoughts about it on paper and read them to myself. Sometimes seeing my thoughts in writing makes me re-evaluate them. I also listen to music when an urge to binge strikes. I listen to something that motivates me and makes me feel happy. Often times the feeling of being happy diminishes the feeling of wanting to eat anything and everything I can get my hands on.

    I wish I could give you so much more help and advice, but please don’t stop frequenting this website! You will gain strength from others, and remember… we are right there with you! At times when you feel overwhelmed, we’ll be here for you. When it’s difficult to love yourself– don’t worry, we’ll show you love and support.

    Stay strong and stick around here! :)

    #80426

    Sick of sugar
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    Hi Tonks,

    Just wanted to say welcome to the forum. I found it the same way you did and I am very glad I stumbled upon it.

    Just reading others share their stories has really helped me. It really helps just knowing I am not the only one who suffers with this disorder. I am by no means over this, and I know I have a long way to go. I do feel as if there is hope for me though. Reading the success of others here is really inspirational. People offer alot of good advice and insight.

    I like you, am sick of food consuming my life. I think about how much time I have wasted obsessing about food and it makes me really sad. There is so much more to life than eating and exercising and I feel like I am just letting life pass by.

    I am really trying to work on feeling my emotions rather then numbing them with food. Sometimes I succeed but this weekend I failed. I started binging again. Normally I would be really upset with myself and depressed. Right now I am disappointed in myself, but I am letting it go. I know I have to. I am going to wake up tomorrow and act as if I didn’t binge all weekend. I will have to ignore the binge hangover, but I will move on. I have learned from this forum that we can’t dwell on our mistakes.

    I know I have a long way to go, but as I read somewhere on this forum, “progress not perfection.” I went 5 days without binging or obsessing about food and then fell apart for two. Hopefully this week I will continue to make progress.

    I hope you find this site helpful and supportive. We are here for you. We can beat this!

    #80427

    Sandy
    Participant

    Hi Tonks,

    Welcome to the forum and I just stumbled on it today as well and I can understand how it feels to finally have people to talk to about this.

    I too have tried going to a nutritionist and to a therapist but when I mention the binges, they all for some reason either focus just on the depression, anxiety, or my previous history of anorexia and so end up not helping at all and it has become an even more secretive thing than it was before if possible.

    I too have resorted to just not buying things that I binge on usually, but find myself going out and buying them or making them and then eating half the pan of cupcakes or otherwise. I had two mini binges today and yesterday so I am not feeling all that great about things either at the moment very disappointed in myself actually but it’s no use at this point crying over spilt milk, so I’ll try not to.

    Tomorrow is a new day though right? Thank you for sharing your story and stay strong! We can do it!

    #80428

    tonks
    Participant

    Thanks for replying all. Sometimes I feel like when I speak to GP’s or therapists it is definitely not treated with the same amount of seriousness as other eating disorders.

    My first day has been okay so far, I went to the gym which isn’t that unusual. I didn’t eat until I was hungry, so I have only eaten a total of twice today. I know that my partner is making dinner and I am not hungry yet but I will feel like I have to eat it because it’s there? What do you do when you are trying to follow your body but social situations or routines force you into eating.

    #80429

    Lauren
    Participant

    Thanks for sharing! I would say that you need to really start with not restricting and shooting to eat super healthy all week or that is going to inevitably lead to weekend bingeing….Your weight loss was really awesome but now is time to learn to have a normal relationship with food and officially get out of dieting zone because it is literally that that is triggering the binges. You will get so much support and wonderful insights here about how to do that! ~L

    #80430

    tonks
    Participant

    Well it’s day 3 and so far no “binges” – sometimes I will eat just a tad too much at a meal but I am managing to go ‘okay I am full’ – I am also CONSCIOUSLY thinking about what I am eating.. trying to enjoy each bite, not mindlessly eating like I can do sometimes when I binge. No restrictions either… I had someone start talking to me about a diet they were on and how much weigh tthey lost and I found it a bit difficult. I explained to him I didn’t want to diet anymore.. Some people don’t understand I think, that it’s the dieting that has harmed me this whole time.

    Tonight everybody wanted some Chinese food so we got some – it almost triggered a binge and I found myself getting close to wanting to eat more.. but I think I handled it well.

    I saw my psychologist today and talked about happiness and binge eating. He said it’s important for me to accept who I am, the good and the bad, and just relax and focus on enjoying the little things in life.. and do things that I enjoy. So I am going to focus on that too. I need to give myself more credit for the achievements I have had.

    I have also been to the gym each this week – I am feeling good about that too.

    What I am struggling with is not beating myself up over the food I’m eating. Like tonight, feeling guilty about getting Chinese even though I shouldn’t.. And then feeling guilty and worrying about feeling guilty.

    I know it’ll take some time to stop fixating on it. I hope that what I am doing is the right thing.

    #80431

    tonks
    Participant

    So I have reached day 7 – doing OK so far, I haven’t binged… I don’t think. There have been moments of overeating, like at dinner where I get a little bit extra.. I feel almost like I’ll start to, but then I have kept in mind that I’m not hungry anymore, that I don’t need anymore, etc. etc. I’m also trying to eat more slowly, and mindfully, and enjoy what I am eating (no restrictions!)

    So I think it’s okay

    Does it count if it’s a binge if you get your second helping of pie? When do you start calling it binging? I know I have had much worse, times where I just didn’t stop eating until I could puke. That was not the case this week.

    #80432

    michelle1
    Participant

    hi,

    Just reading evrybodys posts, and i can relate to it all, it feels good to know that i am not alone in this, its so hard sometimes to stop bingin, i dont know why i do it, i think because sometimes i am bored and lonely, my boyfriend works away sometimes and when he is away i seem to binge the most, i just want to stop, i dont want it consuming my life, i hope we can all help each other through this.

    #80433

    tonks
    Participant

    I went on a binge last night and again tonight. I started to get anxious.. and I went out to dinner to celebrate a birthday and once I started I just couldn’t stop. I ate until I felt sick.. Today I tried to relax and not do it again but did, tomorrow is another day and I won’t beat myself up too much.

    Welcome Michelle :)

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