I really need help from someone out there

[cant-do-this-on-my-ownParticipant]

Nope, but I am open to any suggestions!! I think if I haven’t stopped this by next week, I will go to the doctors. I think that will be the only way and the best thing to do.

[tobebingefreeModerator]

what’s your current eating pattern? if you restrict inbetween your binges, then stop. if you are counting calories… stop. if you are exercising too much? stop. it’s all common sense really! doing all 3 at once might be too much so maybe pick whichever one is appropriate for you right now and work on that. other things to try would be to make sure every meal you have is what you really want at the time. so have pasta for breakfast, if that’s what you feel like eating. there are lots of things to try beyond that, so if you tell us a bit more about what you feel the problems are, we can all brainstorm some ideas xxx

[cant-do-this-on-my-ownParticipant]

I do count calories but don’t do the other two really. I exercise, but in moderation. Somehow I feel better now – no binge yesterday and I feel I’m on the right track, now I’ve threatened myself with going to the doctors if I don’t stop. I’m now trying to eat 1700-1800 calories a day to lose a little weight and then I will try to maintain my weight. I’m not guarenteeing success but I feel as though I can do this, now. Finally! Am still open to tips though, and I will return here to make sure I stick to my plan…

[tobebingefreeModerator]

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trying to eat 1700-1800 calories a day to lose a little weight

don’t do this. seriously! don’t. when you eat under maintenance you are setting yourself up for a binge.. just try to maintain for now while you sort out the binging and you can revisit your weight once everything has stabilised xxx

[cant-do-this-on-my-ownParticipant]

If I don’t have a plan, I will definitely binge. It’s working so far so this is my only option. Sorry

[tobebingefreeModerator]

you can eat to a plan without being in a calorie deficit..? it’s the “lose a little weight” part that will hold you back. if you need to eat to a plan for now, that’s cool xx

[eemsloParticipant]

Can’t do this….yes you can! But like ToBe says, you need to put that dieting thinking on the back burner for now. You need a plan? Try for each meal eating something you love. Sit down enjoy, eat til your full then on to the next meal. With binging, you are already consuming huge amounts of calories so just give this a try.

I had ice cream for lunch because that is what really sounded good. I ate it in the open (in a bowl)(new concept) and that was the end of it.

Wishing you a loving and sane day.

[cant-do-this-on-my-ownParticipant]

I can’t really do that as my parents will think it’s weird… but thanks for the suggestion. I guess you were right, I’m now back into binging. Last week was soooooo good – but now life sucks again. I think I’ve had enough and will make a doctor’s appointment for tomorrow…

[tobebingefreeModerator]

when i did all my food planning, it definitely caused me to binge. i felt so constrained by my plan but at the same time i relied on it heavily and felt i didn’t know how to eat any more without it. i eventually managed to give it up and i did go crazy with food for the first little while, but after that things settled down and i feel so much better for it. i think giving up the planning might help you, and it’s worth considering. are you going to the doc today? xxx

[cant-do-this-on-my-ownParticipant]

I’ve given planning up before but have always gone back to it, even though at the moment I’m not sticking to my plans whatsoever

I don’t know if I should go to the doctors. I feel I should, but I will have to make the appointment secretly, without my parents knowing (which won’t be too difficult but may be if I get held up) and I know I can’t tell them yet. I think I should though. Have you ever been to the doctors for this?

[eemsloParticipant]

I’ve read from many people on this forum, those Dr.’s just don’t get it. Hopefully yours will be different. It seems they want to treat BE as a symptom and they work toward getting to the underlying cause.

Just know that we have the power to change our behavior.

Wishing you a loving and sane day.

[cant-do-this-on-my-ownParticipant]

ok… thanks. You too

[tobebingefreeModerator]

yeah it took me 3 tries to get rid of my food planning, but it was definitely the right decision. do you really want to have to plan your food every single day for the rest of your life? torture!

and no i haven’t been to the doctor’s but i agree with eems on this – from what i have read here, they just don’t get it and will lead you down the garden path with their “solutions”. binging is not a symptom of anything, it IS the problem. you need to tackle it headfirst xxx

[cant-do-this-on-my-ownParticipant]

It’s a good point – I really don’t want to plan! Ok I’ll give it a go… scary but I’ll try.

And ok I won’t go to the doctors yet then. I’ll try to solve it by myself first again… easier said than done! x

[eemsloParticipant]

Please just try and remove any food restrictions!! Ask yourself what you would like for breakfast..cereal, no, maybe a waffle or maybe some bacon. All those no nos we forbidden us. Give yourself some freedom and you’ll be suprised with the results.

Wishing you a loving and sane day.

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