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i need serious help

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  • Started 1 month ago by luckyLMC
  • Latest reply from rosesarered

  1. luckyLMC
    Member

    i have been dealing with a binge eating disorder for about four and a half years. I go on all these massive diets. I always fail and tell myself "oh oh its okay, ill start tommoorw" i have a serious addiction to food. my binges go out of control. im either on a diet or none at all. i will either eat good and excercise or eat sooo much and not excercise at all because i figure it would not even do anything... i have tried everything. ive gotten a personal trainer, talking to people, counting my calories...everything. i always find myself in the same situation. i hate losing weight and gaining it back about three to four pounds after one binge. i get so annoyed and frusterated and then just eat some more. One i get started i dont know how to stop. It gets way too out of control... i need help! does anyone relate to me?

    Posted 1 month ago #

  2. jacquirsw1
    Member

    Oh yeah I soooooooooooo relate to that!!!!!!!!!!!

    It is a well known and studied state called dichotominus (sp) thinking which means all or nothing, and is one of the main factors in both the begining and the maintaining of binge eating disorder.

    Now I know this is going to sound really scary and way off base but the only way to stop it is to stop setting yourself up. Which means stop dieting. If you are not dieting it means you can not not diet either, so you don't have the same binge starve cycles going on.

    It is difficult to do especially if you have been on the diet cycle for a long time (I have been on it 20+ years) but it is the best thing to do if you want to stop binging.
    The good news is that for most of us that are habitual dieters we all know what healthy eating is so if we can get our binging under control then we naturally lose weight anyway without putting ourselves on restrictive diets.

    You can get this under control.

    Jacqui

    Posted 1 month ago #

  3. luckyLMC
    Member

    Thanks for the help... i cant just stop dieting I've tried... SO INCREDIBLY HARD. ive tried eating things in moderation... but i seriously cant control it. i am going to try and make better choices... losing weight is the hardest thing i have ever done. I lost 16 pounds and gained it 20 back due to my bad habits. Im going to try and overcome this by journaling. and see how it works from there...have you tried that? does it help? Im glad i found this blog where i know people can relate to me. I need help and i just cant do it alone. My friends and family just dont understand...

    Posted 1 month ago #

  4. binger
    Member

    I know that its frustrating.....where you are lucky i have been..you are not alone and all of us genuinly understand what you are going though..im here for you...

    Posted 1 month ago #

  5. jacquirsw1
    Member

    Yeah I find that journalling really does help.

    I know it sounds impossible to stop dieting but it really does make a difference. I am 4 stone ( 52lb ) over the top end of my healthy weight range so to stop has been one of the scariest things I have ever done. and even now I slip back into the pattern sometimes without thinking about it because of how long I have been doing it for. But I keep trying and it gets easier.
    I often find now that I lose on the weeks where I don't diet, but gain on the weeks I do as I envariably end up binging huge amounts of calories at some point during the day.

    Jacqui

    Posted 1 month ago #

  6. luckyLMC
    Member

    I lose and i gain weight soooo easily. If i eat around 1400 cals and excercise i can lose like 3 pounds in three days. but if i have a massive binge i can gain five... i repeat my cycle again... does that happen for anyone? i seriously hate it. I can lose the weight scale wise but still look like a freaking baloon!!!!

    Posted 1 month ago #

  7. harrica
    Member

    i can so relate. i am 19 and a for about 3.5 years I have been a binge eater. something i try to keep as secret as possible. I have been a severe dieter and binger and am now starting to realize that the only thing that works is having everything that i want in moderation or i will diet for a bit and then have a huge binge. But the problem is that even though i am eating well balanced meals and trying to not let a something i think i shouldnt have make me binge, it still does. Just when i think i have made improvement and am doing well i fall back to old habbits. I just feel so uncomfortable. it makes me so depressed when i really think about it and the impact it has on my life. will it ever stop for good or is this something i will deal with for the rest of my life.?? i hope not.

    Posted 1 month ago #

  8. luckyLMC
    Member

    i hope not too. Its no way to live. We are worth so much more than food. im eighteen and ive been doing it since my sophomore year of high school! I hate how some people think its not a real eating disorder. They think that everyone overeats. But its really had a toll on my body and my life. I wake up in the morning and its all i think about food food food. Its hell. A light binge for me could be 2000 calories in one sitting. Its really depressing.But I have been eating better ever since I joined this forum... I really like it. I like to think that im not the only one struggling with this problem. lets not make it something we have to deal with for the rest of our lives... its hard as hell. but the only way we'll overcome it is if we dedicate ourselves to make change. we have to change. we just have to. Were definitely not going to change overnight. We have to take it step by step day by day. For me, I like instant gratification. Its just what im used to. If i dont see if I lose like three pounds in a week, ill go crazy and just binge. Gain like four. More than what i started with. Im addcited to the scale. I hate it. I cant break it brecause Its my moms... I have literally tried dieting over a hundred times. Its insane. But i really want to break free of this. Its just no way to live... Joining this forum has really helped me. Im starting to journal my feelings instead of turning to food. You should try it... and start talking here more of something...it has seemed to help me

    Posted 1 month ago #

  9. rosesarered
    Member

    OMG! you gusy are my people! I relate to all you! I'm 20 yrs old and stuck in this horrible position and am at a complete loss of what the hell to do. It's so frustrating, I want to wear a bathing suit and feel good about myself, but I'm so self concious and feel so ugly all the time, it's a horrible way to live. I've tried everything from fad diets to acupuncutre to overeaters annonomous, but something's wrong, I need help. Some days will be awesome. But with me, if i have one piece of cake, my mentality is whatever might as well have 4 more because who cares now. I need to learn it doesn't have to be all or nothing.

    Posted 1 month ago #

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