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  1. ivierose
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    So today is the first day that I will be eating out at a restaurant since I've decided to control my binge eating. I've been stressing about it all day and I was wondering if anyone has any pointers to help me through?? I've been doing so good and have gone a few days without bingeing, but I'm really worried it'll happen tonite. I've been trying to decide what I'm going to eat before I get to the restaurant, but I think that stresses me out even more. The restaurant serves unliminted salad and bread with your meal, so I tend to take my meal home and just eat salad/bread at the restaurant. I know that stressin about it is making it even more likely that I will binge, but I just feel kinda trapped in a cycle of worrying about it. If anyone has any suggestions I am more than open to them .... even if they don't make it to me before I go to the restaurant ... they will be more than helpful at some point!! Thanks

    Posted 1 year ago #

  2. Rainbow
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    Personally I have made the experience that a binge occurs most likely if a don't enjoy a special situation.
    So my suggestion is to eat the meal there. Pick something healthy that you really like. Remind yourself that this is a night out and enjoy it. Take your time to eat and listen into yourself to stop when you are satisfied.
    I don't know if you want to eat dessert but I think I wouldn't if eating to much triggers binges.
    I'm positive you are going to make it.
    Another idea could be to order the same as the one you are going with and eating the same amount because then you know it is what a healthy person would eat

    Posted 1 year ago #

  3. ivierose
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    Thanks for the ideas, it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be, but I still ate more than I probably should have. My meal came with a complimentary dessert, so I gave it away but then my mum was practically shoving her dessert down my throat. I'd say that was the wrost cuz she was actually spoon feeding me her dessert even tho I said no. But I made it through and did a lot better than I thought I would, but I will definitely take your words of advice with me next time I'm out!!!
    Thanks

    Posted 1 year ago #

  4. k8t1485
    Member

    I agree with Rainbow on that, if you don't enjoy yourself you will be left unsatisfied, which will then lead to bingeing on foods to satisfy you. And then after you'll just feel even worse than where you started. Vicious cycle it is. I too have started to branch out and go out to a restaurant to eat to calm my anxiety & food obsession. What I go through when eating out is the anxiety before I order. Telling the waitress changes or alterations on my order since I am not in control of preparing the food, and also feeling judged by the waiter & the people I am out with. This is being obsessive and then it takes you out of being in the present moment. What helped me is that I just try to take it a step at a time. Baby steps. Sometimes it helps if you talk to yourself in your head, guide yourself slowly. Try to relax & breathe to not get anxiety obsessing about what to order, don't make changes, eat slowly and mindfully, eat until you are full and really enjoy your time out. Remember that being out to eat is a treat, so you deserve to enjoy yourself.

    Posted 1 year ago #

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