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July 11, 2012 at 2:33 am #5388
I am new to this site and could really use some advice….
I used to be anorexic and kind of “recovered” and then started restricting again, but have found that cutting out all sugars helps me maintain a sense of compulsion, while staying healthy and more or less nourished. I eat tons of protein veggies etc.
Anyway, there is def a lot of disordered thinking going on probably but for now I think this is the best I can do…
Why Im posting is I am a nanny and when I am invited to eat whatever I want in someones house, alone, I really cant help but have a small snack. Then it turns into another small snack. Then something I wouldnt typically eat (because these homes are FILLED with junk foods!!!). Then once that door is open its like I cant leave the kitchen… And Im whipping up all kinds of weird combinations because Ive already fallen so far off my track. Then sometimes after I leave Ill even buy some guilty snacks on the way home because at that point Im hating myself so much and might as well just take it to the extreme…. until Im so full I can barely walk. Its awful!! Every day before I nanny I tell myself I wont let it happen and am successful 20% of the time on varying levels. I dont know why its so hard to just stay away. I find it hard to control myself even if Im there for just an hour or two. has anyone else experienced this? I am almost considering quitting this line of work because being around the food and struggling in my already disordered state is really stressful and doesnt seem worth it.
does anyone have a breathing exercise or mental message that works to really stall a binge long enough to stop it before it starts?? Also I feel bad eating their food! But this doesnt stop me either..July 11, 2012 at 7:00 am #96285
Hey alicealice! Thanks for sharing, I know it’s hard to open up about these things, but coming here was a good choice! I know exactly where you’re coming from. I also used to be anorexic and then recovered. But then I would try to restrict throughout the day and go on huge binges where I literally couldn’t control myself and would eat as much junk food as I could fit into my body until, like you, I could barely walk. I’m very into fueling my body with healthy food, so this weird crazed cycle was really upsetting me, making me feel horrible, and packing on the pounds. I have never been a nanny, but it happened to me elsewhere.
I still struggle with these binges today, but I have a few tricks that help me stay binge free when I can. One thing is that you should try not to restrict your food. I know it’s easier said than done because trust me I’ve been there, but if you eat healthily and allow yourself to eat as much as your body needs, your urge to binge will lessen. Think of it this way: if you eat more than you normally would throughout the day but it’s healthy (or even relatively healthy), that’s much better than binging and taking in all those extra calories.
Another thing that helps me is to think about treating my body well. I try to fuel it with foods that help it and stay away from junk foods that hurt it and are full of chemicals and sugars. I look at it as I only get one body and it does a lot for me, so I should do as much for it as I can in return. The healthier my body is, the better my life will be.
Finally, the last thing that really helps me is what I call the 30 second rule. Sudden cravings are temporary, so when I feel the urge to binge I count to 30 before I do anything and ask myself questions like “Do you really want to do this?”, “Are you actually hungry, or is this just an urge?”, and sometimes while I’m counting I even tell myself “Don’t do this, you know you will regret it” and so on. You will be surprised how long 30 seconds actually is. You can close your eyes and try deep breathing too if that helps relax you. Usually by the end I realize I don’t want to do it and can avoid the urge.
These are what work for me, and everyone is different, but hopefully they help you! I know how awful it is to feel so out of control around food, especially at someone else’s house where they have plenty of it. Trying to fix binging is a long road, especially with a history of other eating disorders, so don’t be too hard on yourself if you have slip ups, you will eventually get through it. This forum is really helpful and offers a ton of support. Seeing that other people are going through the same things is comforting, and having all their support is empowering. It’s really the main thing that’s helped me with my binging in the long run. Also, if you ever need anything please don’t hesitate to come to me! I’d love to help as much as I can. I wish you the best of luck and I really hope these tips work for you!July 12, 2012 at 1:57 pm #96286
Thank you for your response!! Yesterday I told myself that I wouldnt touch any food while at work, but I say this on binge days too, but thinking about the fact that its okay to eat a little more than usual, of healthy foods etc, and allowing the food when tempted in the situation really made a difference. Im not sure how hungry I really was but I had some food and didnt binge. which is much better!!! Im going to continue to allow myself the option of eating and see how that helps, rather than saying I cant have anything and then when I do, completely cave and eat everything out of self hatred. I will also try the 30 second counting. I so so so appreciate these tips. Its so bizarre the games our minds play with our bodies…July 12, 2012 at 2:53 pm #96287
I have a mantra that helps me. I hope that it helps you too! I tell myself something like this: “I am the master. I am not a slave to food. I have control over my own body. I can move my arms, I can keep them still. I can keep my mouth shut. Food does not control me. I am the master of myself. I am not a slave to a substance. I am the master.” Reminding myself that I have control, even when the binge seems inevitable, reminds me that even if I cave, I can stop at any moment. Any time I choose to stop, even if I’ve already consumed the whole bag of chips, it’s a triumph. Every bite I don’t eat is a triumph! But the truth is, no matter how strong the urge to binge is, if I don’t let myself stand up and walk to the kitchen, food will never get to my mouth.
Recovering alcoholics have to stay away from alcohol. Obviously recovering binge-addicts can’t stay away from food, but it’s important to stay away from opportunities that will lead you to binge. I’m not suggesting you quit your job, but if at all possible, it would be to your best interest to tell the family that you don’t want permission to eat their food. I don’t know how well you know them or how comfortable you are with talking to them, but I think the best option is to find out a way to make food unavailable to you while you are babysitting.
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