http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ Support to stop binge eating, stop emotional eating, and stop overeating. en Tue, 06 Jan 2009 11:34:01 +0000 http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/reality-ckeck#post-111 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 04:36:56 +0000 zoe 111@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I got onto this sight from your youtube advetising, so that works very well. I would also like to say if you went to the trouble of making the book I would expect to pay money and i would because I have faith in you that you wouldn't rip me off and would have quality information. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/reality-ckeck#post-109 Thu, 02 Oct 2008 23:22:13 +0000 Andrew Bolis 109@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Zoe,</p> <p>You bring up a good point. This is why I created this forum. I didn't only want an active forum, but I wanted one that was going in the right direction. This forum will keep getting more active as the weeks and months go by. Right now about one new user registers everyday.</p> <p>If you are on other forums, you can do me a big favor, and share the link to this forum on there:<br /> <a href="http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/" rel="nofollow">http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/</a></p> <p>This will help get more people on here and make it more active.</p> <p>And about the money thing I got good news ;)</p> <p>This forum will always be free along with my articles on howtostopeating.com and my newsletters. There are other binge eating forums that actually charge their members to be able to participate.</p> <p>I'm also working on creating an ebook that will be released in the future. This ebook will combine all of my knowledge from my personal experience, therapy I've done, all kinds of binge eating books I've read, support groups I've attended, and what I've learned from others who have recovered from binge eating. </p> <p>That ebook will cost money simply because of all the amounts of research, and time I put into it. However it will be very affordable and will come with a 100% money back guarantee, meaning if the advice in it doesn't work, you can keep it and I'll refund you what you paid.</p> <p>There are two reasons I have to create a product. </p> <p>It came down to either me going into a boring 9 to 5 job or quitting that and spending more of my time working on this stuff. I enjoy this stuff much more, it serves a higher purpose (helping people) and is much more rewarding. So of course I chose to quit. And while I have some money saved up, I need to bring in some kind of income.</p> <p>The second reason is that it will really be the best book on binge eating ever written, and believe me I've read plenty of books on the topic. With that said, it will be worth every penny spent on it. It wont be another scam or rip off. </p> <p>Anyways there will always be free resources such as this forum, the articles and the newsletter. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/reality-ckeck#post-108 Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:58:01 +0000 zoe 108@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>also i just wanted to mention to you Andrew, how fantastic it is that on this forum i get replies on a daily basis. On others i tried i felt neglected because i was always on it and not many people were around toreply.<br /> Im sure i speak for most of us when i say it helps a huge amount that your taking the time and care to reply and show us that this problem matters. I wouldn't have done this or been able to realize things about myself if you charged money or not been so attentive</p> <p> </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/reality-ckeck#post-107 Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:54:16 +0000 zoe 107@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>thanks Andrew,<br /> i hope it helps other people realize the same thing. Its somehting we all 'know' but many of us don't embrace. :-)</p> <p>wish me luck for the coming week </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/reality-ckeck#post-106 Thu, 02 Oct 2008 15:08:26 +0000 Andrew Bolis 106@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Zoe,</p> <p>Your post is very encouraging. I really enjoyed reading it :)</p> <p>I will also include it in my newsletter, I think many of the readers will find it motivating. I'll take your name out just to preserve your privacy.</p> <p>Andrew </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/reality-ckeck#post-105 Thu, 02 Oct 2008 09:06:07 +0000 zoe 105@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I just realized something i haven't thought about in months. I thought because i didnt have the perfect body anymore that i had less worth. I thought i was just binging every three days or at the end of each week because of stress or boredom. Those are accountable somewhat... but its not the core reason i kept going. a couple of years ago i would have slapped myself for feeling this way. My head was on straight, my focus was just on staying healthy and happy and not being worried about fiiting into a niche idea of the perfect body. Now for this year i have been binging and i didnt realize it but somewhat i didnt feel like i deserved to get over it. My lack of self worth caused me to keep binging. </p> <p>I have had many issues to deal with in the past three years. My parents split up, then my dad got cancer and now my sister is just about on suicide watch due to boyfriend issues. I felt like i was a bad person because i de-sensitized myself to bad things happening as they were so frequent. I used the bad things to make me feel significient because i was and am able to stasy strong. But i kept puting myself down for not always feeling the pain that my dad or sister felt.</p> <p>I tried a trick today. I visualized myself the way i usually do, the way i have been doing for the past year; not good enough, not the 'real' me, not worthy of love or going out and having spontanious fun because i wouldnt look good while im doing it. I felt this urge to binge, to fail.</p> <p>Then i visualizd myself the way i had, the way i should; strong, focused, caring, deserving, equal to everyone else no matter how they looked, worthy of love. The need to binge lifted off me. This 'trick' worked on me today when i had the urge.</p> <p>I went out for a run and whilst i still did have to adjust my sport gear alot due to its tightness, i didnt feel as if everyone was staring at me. I deliberatly made myself stop thinking that people were laughing at me or scolding me for being out running and not having the body of an athlete (silly i know, if everyone believed that then there would be an awful lot of unfit people in the world) </p> <p>I basically need to brainwash myself out of my origional brain washing. </p> <p>I realise that all this time i have been thinking 'it would all get better if only i had a boyfriend'. Then i thought why am i thinking this? It's because i thought he would make me feel worthy and special, assert my identity and give me confidence. </p> <p>I shouldnt need to define my worth by my relationship with any man, or anyone for that matter. It should begin with me. </p> <p>I think positive visualization is something i have to start doing now. I have just recognized a major, major thing that has been keeping me on my cycle of destruction. I hope i can start really recovering now. I was ignoring this before because i thought that that was just the way things are and should be, who i was. </p> <p>and thats not true </p>