http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ Support to stop binge eating, stop emotional eating, and stop overeating. en Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:24:33 +0000 http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/flathers-journal#post-1590 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 16:40:41 +0000 jacquirsw1 1590@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I know how you feel I have major anxiety attacks at times and they can be horrible.</p> <p>This may sound weird but during the day when you are not feeling anxious keep internally repeating the mantra I will not get frustrated by not binging over and over, it will take time to work so don't expect it on the first day to have a big impact but over time if you keep doing it you will find that this anxious frustrated feeling lessens and you can do other things instead of binge.</p> <p>It might also help to have smaller meals but have them more often so that you move away from your stomache having to be really full to be satisfied. Also if you include more protein this helps the feeling of being full stay longer.</p> <p>But you will get there, try the list, when you get frustrated tell those feelings off. Say I know it is frustrating but you are going to have to stay there cos I am not giving in. Sounds wacky I know but it is worth a try.</p> <p>good luck </p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/flathers-journal#post-1586 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 13:34:06 +0000 flather 1586@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>hey thanks for the reply. I'm letting myself eat normally during the day. I still get urges and in fact when I do eat my meals, I tend to over eat. When I do eat during the day I get anxious like the amount of food I eat isn't going to sustain me untill the next meal. I don't know why, and its weird but thats how I feel. So I eat untill I'm really full during my meals because I feel if I eat more food then I will be fuller longer. I'm not sure why I get anxious but thats how I feel. I like your idea about a list but when I'm in a binging mood the only thing I want to do is eat and I get frusterated at the thought about doing anything else. It's a horrible trap that I can't seem to snap out of the mood. What can I do to change my mood? </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/flathers-journal#post-1585 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:19:58 +0000 jacquirsw1 1585@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Please don't be embarresed to tell us what is going on. We have all been there and know how it feelsd and how isolating it is.</p> <p>You are doing really well to be controlling the urge to binge during the day, I suppose one question to ask is are you restricting during the day or letting yourself eat normally, if you are restricting then this might be a reason that you lose the control later on.</p> <p>Another thing to do is write a list of things that you think you could do at night instead of binging, then when the urge comes along go straight to your list and do the first thing on it, if that doesn't work then do the second thing on it and keep going till you lose the urge.</p> <p>You can do this and it will get easier</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/flathers-journal#post-1581 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:35:36 +0000 flather 1581@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>So I just binged again....second night in a row when I said I was going to start again. I'm embarassed even to write this but this is what I have to face....reality! I can't hide anymore if I want to recover. I don't want to face the fact that I'm 20lb over my weight goal. Here's the thing that I kill myself with: sometimes I feel that I'm so ugly that no guy would want to date me or find me cute. I'm scared that I'm missing my chance for love because I'm fatter than my usual self. I know that I deserve love in any body size but I'm having the hardest time wrapping my brain around that. If I think a guy is into me I question....why would he ever find me cute? This should be a motivation to loose weight but instead I drown myself in my sorrows with food. I think I'm a hypocrite because I say "You can't love anyone else if you can't love yourself" Well, I'm not doing so well in that department....loving myself. I have lost the motivation to go to the gym and drop the pounds. I miss bein active because I feel so heavy and slow now. I miss the energy. The only positive side to tonight is that I'm realizing that I'm eating less during my binges. During the day I'm using strategies such as listening to music and knitting to keep me from eating. I'm still having trouble during the night when I'm alone and even talking to ppl during the day about it. My mom says to talk to her when I'm about to binge but for some reason I'm having such a hard time talking to her about it. I feel embarrassed about my binging and I don't want her to know that the temptation to binge occurs so often in my day. Well, I'm going to bed. Thanks for reading. </p>