http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ Support to stop binge eating, stop emotional eating, and stop overeating. en Tue, 07 Sep 2010 12:32:06 +0000 http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-52943 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:23:00 +0000 ClaireinControl 52943@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi I just joined yesterday I am a mum of 2 grown up boys. I am 45 and have had this E.D since I was about 9, but today is the first day that I am not going to binge no matter what the world throws at me (just for today and I will take the same approach tomorrow and so on). Really pleased to have found this site and whilst as you there are a lot of younger people on the site I would imagine the feelings are the same and wouldn't it be great if they get this problem in check earlier than we have managed to. Looking forward to doing a journal and meeting people who face simliar problems as me. For the first time in my life I don't feel so alone. Whilst I would not wish this on anyone it is wonderful to know that there are others facing exactly the same issues. Know there will be bad days along the way but one step at a time.<br /> Claire </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-52926 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:04:06 +0000 desert dude 52926@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I'm 35 and a father of five kids too, also I think I'm the only guy on this site too, why this is, I have no idea.</p> <p>Anyway I know what you're going through, and as Lousie mentioned, I also couldn't be without this forum too. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-52921 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 01:16:23 +0000 Louise 52921@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hey, I will be 33 in 5 weeks.. i do feel old sometimes on here, as many talk about going to school.. everyone is wonderful though..... I couldn't be without this forum now .. i love it xx </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-52852 Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:07:16 +0000 ladolcevita 52852@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi there I'm 32 and yesterday decided that i'm going to take action and get myself better. I wanna be the outgoing person I know I am and not hid away. I want to just enjoy life and have a normal one. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-48504 Sat, 05 Dec 2009 12:21:08 +0000 sophy_ 48504@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>i binge when im bored so im finding that at dinner when im going for that ANOTHER slice of bread i have to remember to occupy my self<br /> i can completely relate to you im 15 and my diet during the day is pretty un healthy consists of apple and one orange juice that has to last me until 8 oclock because each day i know that at eight o clock im going to binge thhen throw it alll back up<br /> but i really feel more posative about controlling my eating on here because wen i binge i am out of control and just cant stop... </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-46289 Thu, 19 Nov 2009 01:01:21 +0000 Joyce 46289@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Betty, let the doctor see if he can help you. It won't hurt. If it doesn't work then you can try something else but at least it is someplace to start. Good luck, hang in there. Joyce </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-46175 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 08:47:27 +0000 jent 46175@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Awww. Betty. What is Citalopram? If you can get some help...get it. It may be just what you need to get on track...Jen </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-46169 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 08:11:47 +0000 Bettys Belly 46169@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Well it seems I am better at hiding under my pillow than posting in my blogg. <img src="http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_cry.gif" title=":cry:" class="bb_smilies" /> </p> <p>I have got a bit out of control actually. I have eaten today more than the average person eats in four days. I am gaining weight at such a rate that my ankles hurt. </p> <p>I went to thedoctors this morning and he has given me a course of 'Citalopram' and refered me on to a Phy. He said the <strong>'B'</strong> word too. . . I know that he is right. </p> <p>Has anyone else here beed diagnosed with <strong>'B'</strong>. . .? </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45275 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:00:08 +0000 mrsb 45275@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I'm new here, just signed up. I'm 30 and I decided (after bingeing again) to try and find an internet forum for support so that I can FINALLY stop doing this. It's ridiculous and I've finally had it after oh, 18 years. <img src="http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_cry.gif" title=":cry:" class="bb_smilies" /> </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45267 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:41:48 +0000 Joyce 45267@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Welcome Betty, you have come to the right place if you want help beating your eating disorder. I am an oldie but goody too. A mom of 3 grown children and grandma to 3 beautiful grandkids. I am the oldest here on this site, I think. If anyone is older they sure haven't admitted it. I am 49. I journal everyday, sometimes I get on here more than once a day, you can find out about me on "Joyce's Journal". I have been coming to this site for just over 3 weeks and it has been a tremendous help. There are so many wonderful, friendly, and helpful people here. Look forward to hearing more from you, Joyce </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45260 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:10:09 +0000 jent 45260@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hey there...welcome to the forum...it has been so helpful. I am a mom too, age 38. Keep posting and you will find that people on here can relate to you and help you get through all the stuff you are trying to deal with. I have dealt with the restricitng bingeing cycles for a long time now...it has finally gotten easier. If you come on here when you are going through stuff everyone can help you get/stay on track. Jen <img src="http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_smile.gif" title=":-)" class="bb_smilies" /> </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45234 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:23:02 +0000 jacquirsw1 45234@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi I am an oldie (well compared to alot on here) I am 36.</p> <p>I have binge eating disorder and also at times go through bulimic phases so know where you are coming from.</p> <p>I am on my 3rd journal at the moment. I had been doing really well and had seen a huge improvement but had a small lapse at the begining of last week and am just getting back on track again properly.</p> <p>Good luck </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45200 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 10:28:02 +0000 Bingemonsterbegone 45200@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>My journal is right below this one on the forum,<br /> it is titled Newbie here (waves hello) I am a binger! I post everyday in my journal.. Yes, you can read all about me and my binges there. It will take awhile as I have 8 pages to read thru. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45193 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 10:08:06 +0000 Bettys Belly 45193@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>=) Hey Megan. </p> <p>Thanks for your welcome.. so how often do you recommend keeping ar journal? Does it help you? How?</p> <p>Ooooh questions, questions! </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45192 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 10:01:19 +0000 Bingemonsterbegone 45192@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hello Betty,<br /> Welcome aboard I'm 42. You sound like a busy mom. Best of luck in beating the binges, start a journal and post the good the bad and the ugly days and you will see, you will make progress. ~ Megan </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/anyone-30#post-45189 Wed, 11 Nov 2009 08:47:27 +0000 Bettys Belly 45189@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I am a mother of five kids.<br /> I swing up and down with depression and out of contol eating habbits.<br /> I know that things have to stop... <img src="http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_rolleyes.gif" title=":roll:" class="bb_smilies" /> </p> <p>I feel soo <u>alone</u> with my eating <u>repulsions</u>. It would be <strong>FABTOOSTIC</strong> to meet someone whom I can identify with and help to feel a little better about facing the prospect of having a life free of <u>binging,</u> <u>vomiting,</u> <u>starving,</u> <u>suffering</u> and general <u>mental-self harm.</u> </p> <p>I know I <u>can't</u> do this on my own.. so I am guessing there must be others like me...that also <u>need</u> a friend <img src="http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_question.gif" title=":?:" class="bb_smilies" /> </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/maybe-i-will-find-some-relief-in-this#post-40820 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 23:45:10 +0000 changeisnow 40820@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>you said you've never used it as a comfort.. but let me point out that you said that you want nothing more than to not have to live with the stress in your life and simply eat eat eat.<br /> to me that sounds like you're using food as a comfort, as an emotional/stress blocker. i do the same thing. i could be wrong but i can just tell you that what i do is i will sit down in front of the tv and eat. and what i've used it as is so that i can just sit there and do nothing but zone out and eat, i don't have to think about anything just do two things that are a pleasing to me and my body.<br /> it's an embarassing disorder but trust me, you find the root of your problem and it will help TONS. for me talking to my mom has helped me find what that problem was. talking it out just clears your head and takes that big mess of swirling confusion out of your brain and lets you sort it out.<br /> find that person that you can talk to and above all trust. and if you don't have that, use this forum. we'll be your friend to talk to and vent out your problems.<br /> find your triggers, find the root, solve the problem, be happy. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/maybe-i-will-find-some-relief-in-this#post-40806 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 13:32:31 +0000 rdmoster 40806@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I have been an 'all or nothing' type for as long as I can remember and have struggled with my weight and body image for as long as I can remember too. I lost 40lbs 3 years ago and now have gained almost all of it back, in one summer! I have always yo-yo'ed but this year was the worst. </p> <p>I suppose the worst part for me, (aside from the guilt, shame, embarrassment, weight gain, feeling of being out of control, you name it) is the jealousy I have towards people who never think about food. Never have used it as a comfort or don't rely on it to deal with their stress. </p> <p>I relish in the days, hours and minutes that I don't think about food. And try to use those to help me through the times where I just want nothing more than to not have to live with the stress in my life and simply eat, and eat and eat.</p> <p>I feel like this 'binge eating disorder' that I have is like a monster in my closet, and I'm so paranoid and fearful of it, yet I can't tell anyone about it. Maybe that is the worst, people ask me what is wrong, or what they can do. But I don't know what to say! I don't want to tell my roommates that I need to buy her more cereal, or tell my sister that I ate all of the bakery she brought home. And the road to weight loss? Seems like the most daunting challenge.. which makes me stress and only want to eat more. How awful. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-7#post-38373 Thu, 11 Jun 2009 12:03:40 +0000 amanda918 38373@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>hi foggyday, I know wat you mean about being obsessed with being skinny. I feel the same way and it has really messed with how I handle food. Exercising is a great habit that I have learned to enjoy but not obsess over. I don't concern myself with eating more or less on days that I exercise or don't. Starving yourself is never a good idea and will always lead to binging especially with someone who has problems with it already. Just try your best to eat a normal amount of food everyday and don't feel the pressure to starve or exericse like a crazy person. Whenever I'm feeling like I need to be skinny, I just remind myself that 66% (2/3) of the population is overweight so I should stop pressuring myself to be skinny, healthy is perfect. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-7#post-38358 Thu, 11 Jun 2009 00:14:45 +0000 foggyday 38358@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Thank you so much for responding, just knowing someone out there cares helps so much. The thing that's so hard for me is I can go days with starving myself and working out like crazy so I don't necessarily look fat, but I also think that i'm so obsessed with being skinny I think about food too much. I also feel like because no one has any suspecting idea it makes it harder you know? Again, thanks so much and I will definitely look at the "tips that work" section. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-7#post-38341 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:22:13 +0000 stay at home mom 38341@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>"tips that work" is the name of the post. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-7#post-38340 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:21:35 +0000 stay at home mom 38340@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi FD: Welcome to the forum. I hope you can find something useful and supportive here. Keep us posted if you would like feedback.<br /> Tasting food feels great, even when we are not hungry. By reading others' posts, I hope you can find a strategy that helps you eat delicious food when you're truly hungry, and do other things when you are not hungry. You can check the posts under "helpful tips' or something like that...it's lower in the list.</p> <p>Helen </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-7#post-38326 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 11:28:45 +0000 foggyday 38326@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi, I am a new member of this forum. When I binge I feel like i'm the only person who can sit for hours and eat food after different type of food. But it seems a lot of people have a similar problem which already makes me feel better. Unfortunately, I can go weeks and months if i'm with others without binging, and I lose weight, have more energy, and feel so great. But as soon as i'm alone all I want to do is eat, eat, eat. I don't even know why. I've tried writing in a journal and other things but nothing seems to help. Can anyone here help me in any way? Thanks so much, i'm so miserable from this, and so sick of doing it. I feel like I have no control over my body, like it's a different person binging, not me. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4876 Mon, 13 Apr 2009 10:45:22 +0000 Jules 4876@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I totally agree with the others about going to the gym. In the past I would have said that you would NEVER get me in a gym, but I was given 3 months free gym membership recently so am just starting out using it...and I love it. During this really rough time when I'm trying to get help with the binging and stressing all the time - I go to the gym and I don't know anybody there, everyone is concentrating on what they're doing so they ignore you, it helps you to control your weight...but the best thing I found was that it has made me feel that even though I'm a long way from controlling my binging - I'm in control when I work out. It makes me feel as though I still have some power during this battle and I always come out of there feeling so much more positive than when I went it!<br /> Find what works for you...you've got nothing to lose.<br /> Jules </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4872 Mon, 13 Apr 2009 10:08:07 +0000 Akitagirl 4872@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Remember if sometimes you don't feel like socialising that's ok too just find something else to do to occupy yourself so you don't eat. I'm trying not to worry about not wanting to go out with friends and concentrating on stopping the bingeing. I'm hoping that once my eating is under control that I'll naturally want to socialise because I'll feel so much better about myself. I think you will too!</p> <p>I agree with Charlotte91 about the gym. It gives you such a natural high that you won't want to eat because you'll be feeling so pleased with yourself! If you're not a member of a gym then go out for fast walks or a jog. Sometimes when I don't want to leave the house because I feel so down about the way I look I use my Wii fit or my exercise DVDs. At least then I'm still doing something beneficial but without feeling like everyone is judging me for being fat (which they're not!). </p> <p>Hope some of that helps</p> <p>Akitagirl </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4816 Sun, 12 Apr 2009 20:04:48 +0000 Charlotte91 4816@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hey!<br /> Im new too, and what I find is really helpful to prevent binging IS socialising! Try ti make yourself go out with your friends, go shopping, try the gym - i find the gym really helpful too, when i go i usually never binge out because id worked myself so hard for 400 calories that id refuse to binge out and "ruin" that.. SO thats what helps me, but i am still batteling it and going to try to find a counsellor to talk to..<br /> Good luck!! </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4811 Sun, 12 Apr 2009 17:54:56 +0000 queenoftherodeo 4811@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>thanks and happy easter to you too <img src="http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_smile.gif" title=":)" class="bb_smilies" /> </p> <p>even though i have only been on this site for a week it has helped, today i went to see a friend instead of being at home feeling sorry for myself, with some persuasion from my mum mind you, but she gave me the kick up the bum to go and do something positive rather than being home alone and probably stuffing my face with food later. i have also just started to learn to play the piano, im hopeing this will act as a bit of a distraction and take my mind off it. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4791 Sun, 12 Apr 2009 13:28:53 +0000 V 4791@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hey queenoftherodeo,</p> <p>I can relate to what you and Akitagirl are saying with the whole eating rather than socializing thing. Before I struggled with binging I was suuuper social. I spent most of my time out with friends, but then when I started working, I moved away and had to start fresh and make new friends. It's very difficult at first and I compensated my feelings of loneliness and feeling not attractive enough or funny enough or witty enough with food. As a result, I became really depressed and antisocial. My old friends didn't understand what happened to me and got mad at me for not coming down on the weekends to hang out and not calling them as much. I really damaged a lot of great friendships back home through this eating disorder. Also, it was making it harder for me to be social enough to make new friends. </p> <p>I think people like talking to and being around happy, positive, and confident people. No matter what your skills, intelligence, looks (which all do help, don't get me wrong), etc. ABOVE ALL is a positive attitude and confidence and peace with yourself (or at least that's what I think and have come to believe in). The thing about binge eating is that it really leaves no room for being a happy and confident person. In fact, it makes you feel the opposite of those things, and thus perpetuates the cycle. </p> <p>But don't worry, it DOES get better. Like Akitagirl said, coming here and reading and writing is SUPER helpful. The encouragement and support you'll get from writing down all your thoughts and feelings will be very therapeutic I think. So, I'm glad you're here and I'm looking forward to reading more from you. Good luck today!! Happy Easter!!</p> <p>-V </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4776 Sun, 12 Apr 2009 10:25:36 +0000 Akitagirl 4776@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi, I'm new too and I've been bingeing for 20 years and it's taken over my life so I'm really glad that you've found this group at this point in your life. I know what you mean about the eating making you bitter. It's made me really hard to be around sometimes. I know people, but I don't really have friends. Most of the time I'd rather eat then go out and socialise. The only person that knows, apart from my counsellor is my boyfriend and he doesn't really understand. I don't think anyone can unless they are going through it themselves. I've been in this group for 2 days and I feel really positive. I didn't binge yesterday and I don't think I will today.</p> <p>Good Luck</p> <p>Akitagirl </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4770 Sun, 12 Apr 2009 09:04:37 +0000 queenoftherodeo 4770@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>thanks for the repley,<br /> it nice to know there are others like me and that there is help and i dont have to suffer in silence.<br /> change starts today. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4763 Sun, 12 Apr 2009 06:17:01 +0000 Jules 4763@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi,</p> <p>I'm new to this too and I found that the 2 things that have really helped me were - telling my mum what had been happening ,( she was just glad that I trusted her enough to tell her what was wrong and is supporting me towards getting help), and going to see my doctor, who is refering me to get the help I need to deal with this. If you don't feel like you can tell your family, then at least go to see your doctor....it's confidential, so they won't tell your family if you don't want them to, and they can support you and get you the help you need. You're not alone in this, we all know what your going through and you can talk to everyone here whenever you need to - Jules </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-6#post-4740 Sat, 11 Apr 2009 18:18:09 +0000 queenoftherodeo 4740@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>i am currently suffering from binge eating disorder, im only 16 and i want it to stop before it gets ridiculousy out of control. im currenly happy with my weight. However i used to suffer from anorexia, and as a way of compensativing for this i now uncontrolable eat and am unable to stop. it makes it worse because no one in my family seems to notice. over eating kind of fills a void for me which i just cant seem to fill, i dont have many friends and i kind of feel alone with out any support.i eat normally up untill after 7pm. when im eating my tea, if i eat one mouthfull too much i just cant seem to stop. its upsetting because it makes me bitter and family dont deserve it. im scared,i dont know who i am anymore, i just want to enjoy life and not be tied down by this. i have gcses in a couple of weeks and i dont want them getting affeted. im concerned about my health what this disorder is doing to my body,i dont even have a period, not that i ever really had one. </p>