http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ Support to stop binge eating, stop emotional eating, and stop overeating. en Tue, 06 Jan 2009 20:39:36 +0000 http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/first-time-eating-out#post-1588 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 14:39:29 +0000 Rainbow 1588@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Personally I have made the experience that a binge occurs most likely if a don't enjoy a special situation.<br /> So my suggestion is to eat the meal there. Pick something healthy that you really like. Remind yourself that this is a night out and enjoy it. Take your time to eat and listen into yourself to stop when you are satisfied.<br /> I don't know if you want to eat dessert but I think I wouldn't if eating to much triggers binges.<br /> I'm positive you are going to make it.<br /> Another idea could be to order the same as the one you are going with and eating the same amount because then you know it is what a healthy person would eat </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/first-time-eating-out#post-1587 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 14:21:54 +0000 ivierose 1587@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>So today is the first day that I will be eating out at a restaurant since I've decided to control my binge eating. I've been stressing about it all day and I was wondering if anyone has any pointers to help me through?? I've been doing so good and have gone a few days without bingeing, but I'm really worried it'll happen tonite. I've been trying to decide what I'm going to eat before I get to the restaurant, but I think that stresses me out even more. The restaurant serves unliminted salad and bread with your meal, so I tend to take my meal home and just eat salad/bread at the restaurant. I know that stressin about it is making it even more likely that I will binge, but I just feel kinda trapped in a cycle of worrying about it. If anyone has any suggestions I am more than open to them .... even if they don't make it to me before I go to the restaurant ... they will be more than helpful at some point!! Thanks </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/flathers-journal#post-1586 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 13:34:06 +0000 flather 1586@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>hey thanks for the reply. I'm letting myself eat normally during the day. I still get urges and in fact when I do eat my meals, I tend to over eat. When I do eat during the day I get anxious like the amount of food I eat isn't going to sustain me untill the next meal. I don't know why, and its weird but thats how I feel. So I eat untill I'm really full during my meals because I feel if I eat more food then I will be fuller longer. I'm not sure why I get anxious but thats how I feel. I like your idea about a list but when I'm in a binging mood the only thing I want to do is eat and I get frusterated at the thought about doing anything else. It's a horrible trap that I can't seem to snap out of the mood. What can I do to change my mood? </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/flathers-journal#post-1585 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:19:58 +0000 jacquirsw1 1585@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Please don't be embarresed to tell us what is going on. We have all been there and know how it feelsd and how isolating it is.</p> <p>You are doing really well to be controlling the urge to binge during the day, I suppose one question to ask is are you restricting during the day or letting yourself eat normally, if you are restricting then this might be a reason that you lose the control later on.</p> <p>Another thing to do is write a list of things that you think you could do at night instead of binging, then when the urge comes along go straight to your list and do the first thing on it, if that doesn't work then do the second thing on it and keep going till you lose the urge.</p> <p>You can do this and it will get easier</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/binge-eater-from-spain#post-1584 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 10:42:02 +0000 yashina 1584@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hello there!<br /> Im quite happy because Ive been thinking about the reasons that make me binge eat and I can see that i do it when Im boredl, under stress or sad. But the solution isn't opening the fridge. I havent binge eating for 4 days now and i feel lots better, went to gym every day and phoned my friends when i felt bad. Will it be like this forever? I dont think so...<br /> LMVector please give me your email so we can speak in spanish </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/jacquis-journal/page/4#post-1583 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 06:40:59 +0000 Rainbow 1583@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hey you don't have to thank us *hug*<br /> You're doing just as much for us and your journal is a huge inspiration.<br /> It's so motivating to know no one is alone and that there are many people suffering because of it AND that there are some who get better and make it and fight for their happiness. </p> <p>I'm happy for you! It's good that you like your new workplace and feel that it is a challenge. Challenges make us grow.<br /> Don't worry we will remind you! :mrgreen:<br /> Awesome that you had a good day foodwise. That's the first step to feeling good again!</p> <p>Stay strong! &lt;3 </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/rainbows-journal/page/2#post-1582 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 06:35:36 +0000 Rainbow 1582@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I have the strong feeling that it has to do with my relationship. We hurt each other way too much and I start to believe that it would be better to break up.<br /> It just seems like all we do is fighting and there is this wall between us....it hurts so much but if we end it then at some point the pain would go away. Now it seems never ending. I really don't know what to do. With my eating disorder I totally isolated myself and I got no real friends left. My boyfriend is the only one who really KNOWS ME. But on the other hand he is also the reason I hurt so terribly and I cry so often. I'm just afraid that he will let me go easily and I will feel that I've made a mistake and then I'll be all alone.<br /> I hate this situation. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/flathers-journal#post-1581 Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:35:36 +0000 flather 1581@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>So I just binged again....second night in a row when I said I was going to start again. I'm embarassed even to write this but this is what I have to face....reality! I can't hide anymore if I want to recover. I don't want to face the fact that I'm 20lb over my weight goal. Here's the thing that I kill myself with: sometimes I feel that I'm so ugly that no guy would want to date me or find me cute. I'm scared that I'm missing my chance for love because I'm fatter than my usual self. I know that I deserve love in any body size but I'm having the hardest time wrapping my brain around that. If I think a guy is into me I question....why would he ever find me cute? This should be a motivation to loose weight but instead I drown myself in my sorrows with food. I think I'm a hypocrite because I say "You can't love anyone else if you can't love yourself" Well, I'm not doing so well in that department....loving myself. I have lost the motivation to go to the gym and drop the pounds. I miss bein active because I feel so heavy and slow now. I miss the energy. The only positive side to tonight is that I'm realizing that I'm eating less during my binges. During the day I'm using strategies such as listening to music and knitting to keep me from eating. I'm still having trouble during the night when I'm alone and even talking to ppl during the day about it. My mom says to talk to her when I'm about to binge but for some reason I'm having such a hard time talking to her about it. I feel embarrassed about my binging and I don't want her to know that the temptation to binge occurs so often in my day. Well, I'm going to bed. Thanks for reading. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/borderline-personality-disorder-and-eating-distress#post-1580 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 17:56:26 +0000 jacquirsw1 1580@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>thanks </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/borderline-personality-disorder-and-eating-distress#post-1579 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 16:27:05 +0000 Rainbow 1579@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I have done a psychological test... Had to answer some questions and the result was that I very likely have this disorder.... I fit all the criteria. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/2-30am#post-1578 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:51:05 +0000 jacquirsw1 1578@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>You are not going to stop binging completely straight away, that is not realistic. If you can get your head around that then you will find this much easier. YES you will stop but it may take time, you may have a few more binges between now and then. But what you will find is that they get less often and the amount you binge on becomes less and you don't notice the time inbetween it just becomes bigger.</p> <p>Stop worrying about your weight, from a fatty I know that I only lose weight when I stop binging and I only stop binging when I am not dieting so there is no point dieting.</p> <p>YOU CAN DO THIS 1 binge doesn't stop that.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/jacquis-journal/page/4#post-1577 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:46:36 +0000 jacquirsw1 1577@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>First of all can I thank all of you for the support that has been shown over what I think for most of us has been a very difficult time of the year to remain in control. I really do think that I was only as good as I was because of the support I have found here.</p> <p>and</p> <p>Good news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br /> My first day back at work in my new job has gone well. I have a feeling that it is going to be very busy and a little more stressful than usual for a while, but I am actually looking forward to the challenge at the moment. Remind me about that in a bit when I start moaning please.</p> <p>AND</p> <p>I Have had a good food day. I haven't had anything healthy or good for me really but I haven't binged and I have eaten reasonable sized portions so I am happy with that.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/borderline-personality-disorder-and-eating-distress#post-1576 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:42:17 +0000 jacquirsw1 1576@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Rainbow. have you been diagnosed and if so how was it done.<br /> Alot of what you have said there is what i have done or do, I have self harmed when younger and have periods of feeling out of control and not me if that makes sense.<br /> I have never thought of myself having anything but it seems quite similar.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/rainbows-journal/page/2#post-1575 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:39:35 +0000 jacquirsw1 1575@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Sorry to hear that emotionally it has been difficult today, but that makes the fact that you have had a good food day even more impressive well done. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/borderline-personality-disorder-and-eating-distress#post-1574 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 13:46:42 +0000 Rainbow 1574@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Me. It's horrible. I can really understand how you feel. I suffer too and I also hurt myself at times or spoke and thought of suicide. Sometimes it hurts so much I feel that my heart is going to explode and I can't breath anymore. I'm crying and crying and crying and I feel like screaming.... There are moments when I totally lose control and can't even think straight. I also suffer from bulimia (the non-purging type) and therefore had some problems with overeating. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/rainbows-journal/page/2#post-1573 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 13:42:29 +0000 Rainbow 1573@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Ah I forgot.</p> <p>I had another good day...foodwise...emotionally I nearly had a breakdown but I didn't turn to food...that is a positive. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/rainbows-journal/page/2#post-1572 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 13:41:19 +0000 Rainbow 1572@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Thanks!</p> <p>I'll try to keep doing the things I've learned </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/one-day-at-a-time#post-1571 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 12:59:35 +0000 jacquirsw1 1571@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Welcome.</p> <p>It sounds like you have had a really positive start and you can do this.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/borderline-personality-disorder-and-eating-distress#post-1570 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 12:58:23 +0000 jacquirsw1 1570@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Sorry haven't got a personal understanding of personality disorder although I do have anxiety disorder.</p> <p>I do however have binge eating disorder and bulimia so can understand the feelings that come with these at times.</p> <p>It is good to see that you have found the forum and I hope that you get the support you are looking for.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/binge-eater-from-spain#post-1569 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 11:20:27 +0000 LMVector 1569@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hey, I´m venezuelan and I live in Spain as well. Welcome to the forum.</p> <p>Si quieres hablar en castellano te puedo dar mi email. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/2-30am#post-1568 Mon, 05 Jan 2009 02:38:37 +0000 flather 1568@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>and i just finished a binge..... i hate how this is such a weakness of me. How can I be the new me if I keep on binging? I feel like a fat pig, I can't fit into my clothes and I'm so tired of hiding behind clothes. I used to be so skinny and pretty. I'm embarassed to meet anyone who I knew in high school because I gained weight. I hate how this is ruining pleasure. Today I got annoyed to the point of even needing to take a walk outside to cool off because my mother went in the basement where I was planning on binging in secret. It felt like withdrawl! I got adjitated, miserable and did not even want to be in her presence because I was mad. over food, yes that is so not normal. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm so dissappointed with myself because I know I can be that girl again...the one who enjoyed life and wore nice clothes. not sweatpants everyday....not large sweatshirts....i used to love shopping and even spending time with friends.. now I am a slave to my binging... but this is just a slipup....tomorrow is a different day (and even as i write that i think yeah..im going to binge again like always) my thinking is messed up. i don't have a plan of attack and that is scaring me. i'm so scared of this weight...that it is never going to go away. I'm the only one who can change this....I wish i could just give it to someone else to solve. I wish my mom could just take it and make it go away. But no, this is no one's battle but my own. This is so hard. The battle with myself is a hard one, and I'm loosing confidence that I can beat it. I haven't had a week without binging in a long time. Well, for all of you that read this thank you. I figured instead of posting my feelings in a journal where no one can see it, I'll post it here, where anyone can respond. So feel free to say anything...i'm open to all suggestions even criticism on my terrible spelling haha. sorry i was on a rant. anyway, i'm going to go to bed so i can sleep this off. </p> <p>-hopeless </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/one-day-at-a-time#post-1567 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 21:13:15 +0000 ivierose 1567@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Well I joined this forum yesterday as step one on the road to helping myself ... and today was day one of not binge eating. I didn't deprive myself of anything, which means I wasn't exactly the healthiest eater, but I also didn't binge. It feels so good to know that I've made it through one day. And I can honestly say that it is this forum that has helped me. Knowing that there are other people out there going through the same thing and posting their stories makes me feel so much better ... makes me feel motivated. I've decided to get help, as well as start a journal, and possibly inform a close friend of my issues. I just hope that others are finding this forum as rewarding as I am! Here's to day two ..... one day at a time .... </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/binge-eater-from-spain#post-1566 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 17:53:39 +0000 yashina 1566@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hola guys! Im a girl, 25 years old from Spain and Im a binge eater, definately...I think ive been like that since I was 18. It started with problems at college and with a relationship. Anyways...Im so happy Ive found this forum and I can share my feelings with people that can understand me. I have been trough lots of changes in my life last year and ive put on weight like 10 kg, which is a lot.<br /> Im thinking about starting a journal and share my progress with u! Thank you for all the tips </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/keep-slipping#post-1565 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 17:34:53 +0000 Ashie 1565@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hello Flather, I would say that you may have got yourself into a rut with the binge eating and a pattern has taken hold of you. Now you are finding it hard to break free from it. I would advise you to wait until your period is finished (i'm presuming you are female,) when you would not be getting food cravings and try to work on your plan to stop binge eating. I also used to suffer like you, have you ever got counselling for your battle with food? I have and it really does help. When we binge eat we are trying to fill in an emotional hole, but that can't be done with food, as your body can only physically allow you to eat a certain amount </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/borderline-personality-disorder-and-eating-distress#post-1564 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 17:26:50 +0000 Ashie 1564@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi, has anybody out there got a borderline personality disorder diagnosis and has a problem with binge eating, bulimia, anorexia ect. I have the diagnosis, i'm doing really well, but when I start binge eating I start to feel back to square one again and that I have made no progress. My partner only sees how I suffer, but does anybody out there know how I feel? Please help, I need somebody who understands. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/im-back#post-1563 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 15:21:50 +0000 flather 1563@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>wow that takes a lot of courage to put up a video of your struggles. thanks </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/dietexercise-commercials#post-1562 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 15:12:41 +0000 flather 1562@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>bashtalk them....they can't hear you!! </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-038-advice#post-1561 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 15:10:56 +0000 flather 1561@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Hi! I can't tell you how much I can relate. I used to look forward to when everyone went to bed so I could sneak to the kitchen and binge all night....I mean all night. Sad, I know, but it is the truth. It has taken me so long to accept my binging and even still it is embarassing for me to admit out loud. Whats helpful for recovery is changing your thinking first. My goal is to restore my healthy relationship with food back this year. I'm not telling myself to abstain from binging all together (because I know that can realistically not happen overnight. I know I will have slipups and if my brain thinks that binging = failure....I will never recover. When you do have slipups, allow yourself to have them and accept them. Its ok. Tell yourself that and forgive yourself! Then, try again. Keep a calendar and cross off the days that you don't binge. Then when you look back at all the days you crossed off you will feel so proud of yourself. Sometimes that is the only motivation I have to keep me from binging. Ok, well hope this helps. Good luck! </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/jacquis-journal/page/4#post-1560 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 14:59:06 +0000 jacquirsw1 1560@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Well it is getting nearer the end of the day and I have managed it!!!!!!!!!!!</p> <p>I haven't binged and as the day has worn on I have got less anxious as well which is good. I wouldn't say I am looking forward to tomorrow as such but I am not totaly dreading it which is the main thing.</p> <p>I have eaten well today and had 3 meals.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/rainbows-journal/page/2#post-1559 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 14:55:57 +0000 jacquirsw1 1559@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>It is understandable that this new phase scares at times. But it is so much better than the old ways.<br /> It does get easier the thing to remember is to keep doing what you learn works even when you think everything is going right, this is where I have fammen down so often as I go for a while without binging and gradually things drop off then some sort of stress will come along and I end up resorting straight back to binging, whereas if I kept doing everything like journalling I would do that to the same extent I don't think.</p> <p>Well done for having another good day.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/rainbows-journal/page/2#post-1558 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 13:55:41 +0000 Rainbow 1558@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I know I shouldn't but sometimes it's very hard.<br /> Today I had another good day. It seems to get easier day after day to do the right thing. That's a very strange feeling. I'm so used to binges that I sometimes want to turn back to the routine because I'm afraid of this new development.<br /> I always have to remind myself that I have to stay careful, that I have to keep writing into my journal...things like that. </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/jacquis-journal/page/4#post-1557 Sun, 04 Jan 2009 11:19:47 +0000 jacquirsw1 1557@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Anxious day.</p> <p>Well I have now had my week off in between jobs and start at my new base properly tomorrow. Have only started to really get anxious about it today which is a really big improvement on what I have been like last year but still struggling with it all.</p> <p>It has been a bit scary as it was a year ago yesterday that I had my mini breakdown type thing and had to have nearly 2 months off work because of all of stress / anxiety stuff. Hard to believe that it has been that long, at times I think I am doing really well compared to then, and then at other times I think it has been a year I should be ok again and not having to use tablets etc still to keep myself sane. But not worrying about it, if I still need them then I do not the end of the world.</p> <p>Have tried to eat well today as I know that it can really effect my moods so not doing badly food wise so far. I am worried though that because I feel so anxious that I will binge later to try and get rid of the anxiety feelings.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/dietexercise-commercials#post-1556 Sat, 03 Jan 2009 15:22:59 +0000 jacquirsw1 1556@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>It's hard to know what to say. It might help you to think deeper about why you really find these particular ad's hard to cope with. What about them discourages you.</p> <p>try having a pad next to your chair and when they come on write down what you are actually feeling rather than eating the thoughts away.</p> <p>I think that most of us would agree that journalling thoughts and feelings.... ie writing them down is the thing that helps the most as it makes you actually face up to what is going on in your head and then it becomes easier to deal with.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/help-038-advice#post-1555 Sat, 03 Jan 2009 15:16:36 +0000 jacquirsw1 1555@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>Welcome.</p> <p>This is a great forum and I have found it to be so helpful in my journey.</p> <p>I am in england as well.</p> <p>there are a couple of tips.<br /> 1 try starting your own journal and writing down anything that you think or feel.<br /> 2 start believing that you can do this.</p> <p>Jacqui </p> http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/topic/dietexercise-commercials#post-1554 Sat, 03 Jan 2009 14:08:50 +0000 ivierose 1554@http://howtostopeating.com/binge-eating-forum/ <p>I'm new at this, so I'm not quite sure how it works, but I thought I'd post something anyways ...</p> <p>I have a really hard time watching exercise/diet/weight watchers, etc. commercials, and I just wanted to see if it was just me?!?! I'm finding it extremely hard b/c it's the beginning of the new year, when most people find the need to diet and exercise, so these commercials are bombarding me!! Anyways, I become really discouraged when I see these commercials and turn to food. I guess it's good that I'm figuring out some triggers, but it still doesn't stop me from eating. Other than turning off the TV, anyone have any other thoughts on how to deal with this in a way that doesn't involve putting food in my mouth? ughhhh!!! </p>